Awkward Moments

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about possibilities for awkward moments at weddings. Not that my fiance and I are awkward people—there are just certain wedding traditions that can go terribly wrong, or can be really weird if they are not executed correctly.

I think I suffer from what I will call “fear of feeling awkward.” That’s probably why I like to have everything planned. The wedding rehearsal will be an important event for us, and I don’t want anyone not knowing where they’re supposed to be or what they’re supposed to do. And to make sure there are no awkward moments, I’m taking action and making a plan! Here’s some wedding events that, in my mind, could go terribly wrong…

The Kiss


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It’s a special moment. Your first kiss as a married couple. But you don’t want to make out in front of your closest friends and family! But you also don’t want it to be a simple peck. You need to be on the same page as your fiance. What if he wants to be dramatic and try to dip you and you’re not ready!? The result: AWKWARD!

My solution: Practice. No you probably don’t want your first kiss to look practiced. But I’d like to have an idea of what we both are thinking would be appropriate. I would rather practice than freak out right before hoping it is perfect, and who wouldn’t want to spend some quality time practicing kisses? 🙂

First Dance


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I used to work at a dance studio in the city. The couple that owned the studio did private wedding-dance lessons. I was always surprised by how much wedding-dance business they got. I thought to myself, it must be for people who are really nervous and don’t dance. But now that I’m engaged I think about it differently. It’s a little nerve racking to be the center of attention on the dance floor, and in the moment it could turn into back and forth junior-high-school dancing.


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My solution is not to take dance lessons, because Mr. Castle and I already have! Well kind of…we had to do a lot of partner dancing in college, so I know we will both feel somewhat comfortable on the dance floor. Still, when we pick our first-dance song I plan to practice dancing to our selected music. That way we’ll feel comfortable with our selection and the awkward factor will be kept to a minimum or, better yet, replaced by a cute factor!

Garter Toss


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Mr. Castle is not looking forward to the garter toss at all and has thought about cutting it completely. I’m still on the fence about it. It can be very awkward. If you think about it, it’s so weird! The groom is reaching up his now wife’s dress to get her garter to throw to his buddies…? Pulling it off with his teeth!? Where did this tradition come from? My cousin made her garter toss fun by buy putting things under her dress: a feather boa, granny undies, and even a rubber chicken. She went the comical route, but running out to stuff things under my dress is not something I am interested in doing…

Solution: Either don’t do it at all or do something else for the guys instead. We were thinking of getting movie tickets to attach to the toss bouquet, so maybe we can do that for the garter toss as well. It would be great to find a non-awkward substitute for the garter toss that would get guys involved in the competitive fun that the women will experience diving for the bouquet. Last one to add to the list:

Cake Cutting


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To smash or not to smash, that is the question… Well, my answer is a big heck no! I hate when grooms smash cake in their brides’ faces. A playful frosting on the nose I’m OK with, but a full-on cake fight? NO WAY. To prevent any cake from getting in my face, I have been FULLY upfront with Mr. Castle about this. But I think he is only taking me semi-seriously… I’m just saying if I get cake in my face it’ll be a sad wedding night for him. I guess the point I’m trying to make is be clear what you want and make sure you discuss your plan of action with you groom. If you are a cake-smashing person then you should probably make sure your groom is one too. Either way, you should discuss. On the day-of, after nerves and drinks, you don’t want to rely on letting things happen “in the moment.”

Are you worried about any awkward moments? Have you seen any awkward moments at weddings?


Mrs. Castle

NYC/Southern California
Wedding Date:
April 2012
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  1. mole Bee
    mole 1242 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:05 am

    We jokingly practiced our first kiss, but we didn’t put any real thought into it. Don’t worry; it will work out. In fact, one of our favorite photos (so far!) is of our first kiss. The emotion and excitement of the moment will make you not at all worried about seeming awkward.

  2. hyena Bee
    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:17 am

    Ha! We also talked about our first kiss, inspired by “The Wedding Singer” — no church tongue! (haha). It still felt a teensy bit awkward (I think maybe just kissing on cue makes it awkward regardless?) but it doesn’t look that way in pictures.

  3. cannon Bee
    cannon 513 posts, Busy bee @ 10:43 am

    Our first kiss was pretty awkward. I was so much taller than him in my shoes and I gave him a big hug, too. But it was fun and weird.

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    ItsPronounced_ABear 715 posts, Busy bee @ 11:25 am

    First Kiss: We practiced the first kiss with a Dip, but it seemed like we could never get it off naturally. We ended up practicing a simple me-throwing-my-arms-around-his-shoulders kiss. It was adorable in photos and it allowed us to linger on the kiss for a second without it being awkward because it was combined with a hug.

    First Dance: The first dance, well, DH has no rhythm whatsoever. There was no chance of making this graceful, so we just went with the awkwardness. We ended up laughing through most of it and look really happy in our photos.

    Cake: I originally threatened death if he would smoosh the cake. Then closer to the wedding I decided I didn’t care. I didn’t know what to expect when we got up there. DH ended up posing, ready to smash the cake then said he was kidding. He ended up, as you said, playfully dabbing icing on my nose, then using my hand to dab icing on his own nose, then he kissed me. They are some of my favorite photos of the night. 🙂

    Garter: The actual removing the garter and throwing it was very casual. We are traditional so we never thought to exclude this, even with our grandmothers watching. The awkward part came beforehand when the (female) DJ goaded him into doing a sexy-dance while walking up to retrieve the garter. I just kept wondering how much he had to drink…which ended up being ‘hardly any’. But in the end it was no big deal. We had a good time.

  5. scone Bee
    scone 184 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:35 am

    We are 100% doing dance lessons…I am the one lacking rhythm 😀

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    embarassing cake story, Guest @ 12:17 pm

    At one wedding I attended, supposedly the bride and groom had agreed in advance not to smash the cake. But the bride smooshed the cake into the groom’s face anyway. He went to get even, and as his arm reached out, her arm went down on his arm to block. The cake flew up out of his hand and straight down the front of her dress. Needless to say, the marriage lasted less than 2 years.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 12:42 pm

    We fully discussed the cake and garter beforehand, but not the kiss. I was so wrapped up in the moment, I would have forgotten what we had decided anyway. And it still looks good in the photos, so that’d a nice bonus.

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:35 pm

    All of your awkward fears are my awkward fears. I hate when the first kiss makes you feel like you should’ve paid for the show.

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    kettle 926 posts, Busy bee @ 6:18 am

    I was worried about those awkward moments too, but the garter toss pics are hilarious. Our cake was so good that we just kept eating and there was no smashing cause it all went in our mouths!
    The only awkward pics are bc several family members made weird faces as if they didn’t know they were being photographed–alll day. Oh, and the photos in which I was clearly done being photographed. But other than that, the awkward worries weren’t warranted.

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