Babies Scare Me




I love my photographs of children the best, perhaps because they exude that candid spirit about them, but I definitely felt like I was one of those brides that was more than ready to put the kabosh on babies and children at my wedding. I didn’t even know you could request/expect that parents not bring their kids, because all the weddings I attended I was anywhere aged five through nine.

Some brides don’t want the mischievous little ring bearer stealing the show, or a baby deciding to cry during the vows; for me, perhaps the latter is more true, and fear of my attention deficit disorder wreaking havoc on a child 30 minutes into an 8 hour day.

Children actually freak me out. I never get the happy babies around me, no, I get the 5 year olds that literally climb up my leg while I’m standing in line at the post office, and all the young ones screaming their heads off across the pharmacy counter with their (admittedly painful) otitis media (ear infections). 

I learned that some brides hire babysitters to look after the children in a separate room where they can watch Finding Nemo or play video games to keep them occupied – but the mister could not forsee any relatives not dining on fine china with their children, although our venue does have an elegant room with an entertainment system.


All children-phobias aside, I don’t think we’re going to have many if any young ones running around in cute ties and fluffy dresses. I don’t have anyone even near that age group on my side, and there’s perhaps only a couple on his that will come. But I’m sure his little girl cousin will make for some sweet photos and I look forward to them!






Mrs. Milkshake

Seattle/Vancouver, BC
Wedding Date:
August 2008
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    bojibride 8 posts, Newbee @ 1:54 pm

    Those pics crack me up, especially the one of the little boy in the red vest! Where did you get these pics— I love the flower girl dresses and would love to know the designer.

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    furelysse 175 posts, Blushing bee @ 1:56 pm

    I will be explicitly requesting that guests do not bring their children. So, there are no children except for my nieces and nephews, who will partake in the ceremony. Even my cousin’s children will be requested to not come because I do not want to deal with little children that day. That sounds horrible, but I’ve been to weddings where children are present, and it is never a good sight.

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    mthomps2 26 posts, Newbee @ 2:06 pm

    I love the pictures. Very nice work.

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    milkshake 52 posts, Worker bee @ 2:07 pm

    bojibride: they’re my own photos, and hopefully i can ask the bride where she got the flower girl dresses when she gets back from the honeymoon

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    ErinMarieMack 728 posts, Busy bee @ 2:55 pm

    What gorgeous photography. Nice job and adorable subjects! And, while I work with children every day (and love them!), I definitely understand how you feel about having them at your wedding. No children will be invited to my wedding either.

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    bojibride 8 posts, Newbee @ 3:37 pm

    Thanks Miss Milkshake! If one of the girls is a size 4T, we’d even be interested in buying it from them (assuming that the dress made it through the day in one piece…)

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    Melissa, Guest @ 5:15 pm

    just have to say that I love those girl’s dresses. We aren’t having any little girls in our wedding, mostly because we don’t know any. We are having kids at the wedding though because it’s outdoors and we have stuff set up to entertain them.

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    Miss Milkshake's MoH, Guest @ 5:30 pm

    We’ve talked about this and you know my view on it – no kids, no cake smash and a dress code mandated in the invite – but then again I’m Type A and I don’t see why when it’s a high end venue with a high price tag on the food that you would want to run the risk of anything ruining my day – like an uncle in jeans, buttercream on my dress or kids breaking priceless antiques, wasting food or causing a fuss. I love kids, but working in Paeds for almost 10 years has taught me that they are destined or determined to be absolutely horrible when it counts – whether because they’ve been ill-bred or are exhausted and cranky.

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