When we started dating I was working full time, I had just signed up for a few brush-up classes prior to applying for MBA programs, and I was studying for the GMAT. It was a fun time, let me tell you. We were seeing each other almost every day of the week, and I was traveling for work, studying, and falling in love. Sleep was not in my future.
I have always known that I wouldn’t do well having to give up my personal aspirations for a relationship; it has ended a relationship or two in the past. So I was very clear with Sweetie Scone that I would be entering a nighttime master’s program the following fall while continuing to work—Sweetie Scone being the rock star she is said she wanted to hang in there with me.
A mere seven months into our relationship I started going to school full time at night on top of my full-time work schedule. School was also an hour commute each way from home (that was fun)…so Sweetie Scone and I didn’t see each other nearly as much as we did in the beginning. Not going to lie, it was hard emotionally. By the time I got home I was exhausted, Sweetie Scone was lonely, and I just plain didn’t have as much time or energy to put into our relationship. And to top that off I really strongly didn’t enjoy my work situation (I got a master’s degree so I could work my way out of it), and the unhappy workplace typically meant that I complained a lot when I got home. No bueno.
By the time school started we were fully in love, we were planning our future together, and we were working toward our pre-reqs. After the first quarter of school, I knew I had to change my attitude and put energy into our relationship.
Thankfully, Sweetie Scone is a wonderful person and we really worked on keeping our relationship in a good place.
Did you struggle with finding balance early in your relationship?