In a variety of my wedding books, I’ve read about the “complimentary toiletry basket” to be put in the guest bathrooms at the venue. While I think this is a very sweet idea, I don’t know if I want to do that.

Ideally, I’d love to spend money buying lotions, soaps, feminine products, brushes and all that, but we’re po’. Is that really something that needs to be bought? I’d have to buy more things that are personalized so we can put it in the baskets, saying thank you and all that. I know, it would only be two baskets, but it seems like an unnecessary expense.

In the weddings I’ve been to, there hasn’t been a courtesy basket. Heck, one wedding had no room in the port-a-potty for the basket! So I wonder if this is just another one of those things the books/magazines tell you to need, like a garter.

Another concern of mine: our ballroom is in a hotel, on the second floor. They are essentially public restrooms for the ballrooms on that floor and people who are waiting in the lobby. So I’d basically be providing baskets for anyone who uses those restrooms. I don’t know if I like that idea.

What do you think? Basket or no? What would you like to see in one if there WAS one?


Mrs. Kiwi

Los Angeles
Wedding Date:
November 2007
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    Miss Emerald, Guest @ 1:28 am

    Definitely not planning on doing a basket cuz I think 95% of that stuff will be unused. However, I what I DO plan on putting in the bathrooms are:
    – Nice hand soap
    – A few candles for ambiance
    – A small basketful of Mints! =)

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    Lei Lydle, Guest @ 9:31 pm

    Ever since I planned my own wedding in 1998 I have been working in the wedding industry and writing about wedding planning. I am a member of the Association of Bridal Consultants and I can assure you there is no rule of etiquette that states that you must provide toiletry baskets for guests. In fact, some hotels and other event venues may not even allow you to put these types of items in their public restrooms for liability reasons. Toiletry baskets are a definite nice touch if you have the money and especially for outdoor weddings or weddings at someone’s home. But even for the most formal weddings these baskets are not a must no matter what the mags say…

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    wsukarebear, Guest @ 11:24 pm

    I blogged about this a while back–I have heard they are great, and a waste of money, and one bride even had everything disappear after an hour or so–everyone took things and did not leave any leftovers like they were expected to.

    If you really want to do them and save money, a bride on The Knot posted about how she went to a bunch of websites and asked for free samples, therefore not paying for anything!

    Otherwise, add it to the list of trends that cost an extra penny and probably don’t do much for your guests…I have been to a ba-zillion weddings and never had the luxury and survived.

    If you do decide to do it, please visit the dollar store or Costco an consider only getting the essentials–Ibuprofen packets, ponytail holders and Tums. Those are the only things I could think of that I have needed and maybe been without when at a reception. 🙂

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    kp, Guest @ 11:11 am

    it might be a nice idea..especially if you’re not “sharing” the restrooms w/ other parties/people…but not really necessary.
    i’ve seen some at weddings and never used anything~

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    Lou, Guest @ 11:54 am

    The only time I saw this done and thought it was necessary is at a wedding in a remote, outdoor location with port-a-potties. In that situation the baskets were a lovely touch.

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    Jenbug, Guest @ 3:40 pm

    The coordinator at my venue actually told me not to use them because the bathrooms our guest will use are essentially “public” for anyone at the hotel, whether they’re staying there or just walk in. So I’d say skip it since your bathrooms can be used by people other than your guests.

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    Iris, Guest @ 9:30 pm

    When my mom called the hotel coordinator, she said if you want to do it, only bother with the ladies’ room — the men never touch the basket. (Let’s just hope they wash their hands at all!)

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    Weddingbee » Blog Archive » Tears of Joy?, Guest @ 12:54 pm

    […] though I long ago tossed the idea of a guest basket in the restrooms, I totally want to put these tissue boxes in the […]

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    Angie, Guest @ 10:44 am

    We have 6 months to our wedding so we have been requesting samples from companies and will continue to do so so that will lower the cost of our baskets. Whatever we can not get free we will use coupons and sales to do. We have been getting stuff free lately. It does time a lot of time and dedication.
    Angie 🙂

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    Helping Out, Guest @ 7:50 pm

    I’m putting together two baskets, (ladies’ and gents’) for my friends’ wedding. I had asked the bride if I could help in any way from 300 miles away, and she asked me to put together the baskets. I’ll pay for them and decorate them to her colours as one of my gifts to them. Perhaps you can ask a friend who would like to help but doesn’t know how. Each basket cost about $25-30 USD to fill. MAKE SURE YOU INCLUDE A NOTE that says something to the effect of “Please use what you need for your little emergency, but leave some for the rest” etc., etc.

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