When it came time to choose who we wanted at the wedding, initially we planned on just those that we are closest to (we actually made this decision before we were officially engaged). We thought about inviting a few friends along, but then it turned into “Well, if I invite this person, then I also have to invite x, y, and z”, and at that rate our list could have ended up a mile long! We both agreed to a small group, family only, and thought it would be easiest that way to organize the trip. So at this point, our list looked like this”¦
My immediate family:
- 3 sisters and significant others
- Dad and stepmom
- Brother, sister-in-law, and 2 kids
- 2 Uncles and significant others
Our guest list was at 20 people including us, and we were happy with that.
Then in May, my bestest friend got married and I was a bridesmaid in her wedding. She and I had been friends for years and she’s the type of friend that just gets me. I call her on my hour-long drive home almost every day just to chat. She’s the type of person that tells it like it is, no-nonsense, no drama, no sugar-coating, and I adore her for that. As we were dancing and drinking the night away at her reception, I turned to Mr. Nachos and told him that our wedding wouldn’t be the same without her. I had to have her there. He agreed, we made the decision to both invite one friend each, and we asked her and her husband to join us on our special day. She was excited, I was teary. Seriously, I am such a sap and cry at almost anything. I even cried once watching So You Think You Can Dance. I’m not kidding.
The 4 of us at their wedding (I caught the bouquet and Mr. Nachos caught the garter)
The next day, Mr. Nachos called up his good friend that he’s known for years and told him we’d love him and his girlfriend to be there with us in April. With no hesitation, he accepted the invitation and we were thrilled.
At that point our guest list was at 24 people including us, and we were happy with that.
Then, my mom called me a few weeks later to tell me she was talking to her friend that she’s known since they were little, and invited her and her husband along. It was unexpected, but no problem. Our families have known each other forever and she’s been my non-official Auntie C since I was born. So, I added 2 more to the list.
Finally, our guest list was at 26 people including us, and we were happy with that.
In the long run, adding more people didn’t really make anything more difficult for us since everyone was paying for their own trips, anyway. The main thing it affected was the number of invitations and STDs we’d be making and sending, but we finalized the list far enough in advance so we were OK.
I really think we have a great group of people to share our celebration with and I’m happy the list stops there. It really could have been so much bigger, but big was not what either of us envisioned when we started planning. The tricky part is going to be coming up with a guest list for our home celebration, but I’ve put that on the back burner and will worry about it in a few months.
The procrastinator’s motto: why do today what you can put off until tomorrow? One of my favorites!