Bridesmaid Barbie

When I first got engaged and asked my favorite ladies to be my bridesmaids, the first question they asked was, “Are we going to have to wear bright-colored 80’s dresses?”

If someone was to try and describe my sense of style, the words “understated,” “neutrals,” and “romantic” would most definitely not be used. I love bright, vibrant colors. I like polka dots and bold stripes. Glitter is my best friend.

And I see no reason for my wedding to be any different!

BUT, I have to remind myself that my bridesmaids are not dolls that I get to play with and dress however I like. If they were, they would totally be wearing colored tights or colored petticoats, because I think those things are awesome. They would look exactly like this:

Image via John and Jen Photography


Aaaaaah! Isn’t it amazing? I want every single dress in that picture!

But as much as I love this look, I’m not going to have my bridesmaids wear dresses like these. Why not? Maybe I’m weird (okay, I know I am, but that’s beside the point), but when I’m with my bridesmaids at my wedding, I will be looking at my four best friends in the whole world. And I want them to look like themselves, not some weird version of themselves that’s kind of like me. So even if these dresses would fit perfectly with my personality and my wedding “theme,” I feel like I wouldn’t recognize my bridesmaids if they wore dresses like this.

Anyone have any similar situations with their bridesmaids? Do you think I should have them wear my style of dresses anyway??


Mrs. Blue Whale

College Park, MD
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:29 pm

    I like the bright colored dresses but I wouldn’t put my BMs in that because my OCD needs some kind of matchiness.

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    RapunzelRapunzel 812 posts, Busy bee @ 12:52 pm

    So I LOVE those bright dresses (my ‘maids are all wearing mismatched brightly colored dresses) and think my girls would love them too, but I can totally understand that if your girls wouldn’t like them it wouldn’t make sense to have them wear them. Can’t wait to see what you did choose!!

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 6:37 pm

    I feel like you could still pick one or two great bright colors…that way it’d be cohesive but still you too!

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