I got my wedding band from the jeweler’s the other week, and I must say that I don’t love it. He is the same jeweler in New York who made my engagement ring, and he has excellent prices (and we trust him). After a couple very specific emails back and forth, he sent me an image of the ring. It’s everything I wanted: bead set, milgrain, thin band, with engraving detail on the sides.
It looks great magnified like this on camera, but in person it looked and felt cheap. The milgrain was barely visible (microscopic) and the platinum is paper-thin. It’s pernicious, this discontent. My first impression was not, OH! But rather, Oh. And I really wanted to love it. So I wore it for a few hours, took pictures of it, did all the silly things a woman does in that situation, which was to try to love it from a different angle. Under the bathroom lights at a 37 degree angle it looked pretty good, and I was satisfied for a minute. But when I woke the next morning and saw it in the daylight, that was it. I didn’t like it. But I felt torn because the detailing was quite nice and Mark put a lot of work into it. So we went to a local jeweler to examine their version. It was much better. Bigger milgraining, more substantial platinum, and the bead setting was more proportionate to the diamonds (i.e. they were smaller, not the same size).
So I confronted Mark and told him about my dissatisfaction and it came out that he used the wrong size stones. Um, what??? That wasn’t the primary issue. I was adamant that he also used chintzy platinum. Anyway, now he’s going to redo the ring. But this time, it’ll be something completely different—something not so intricate (unfortunately)—that can’t be screwed up: a prong-set eternity. I will have to give up the detailed, antique-y milgraining and engraving design. (I know, big sacrifice. I realize how childish this sounds.) I’m stuck with using this jeweler because I can only exchange, but not return the ring. So he is supposed to send me an invoice today, and the ring will be delivered in about two weeks. Ugh.
I’m not unhappy about this turn of events. But the discontent made me feel uncomfortable, and the hassle and anxiety over creating another ring is annoying. With the BM dress flub and some invitation-related issues (more on that later), this has been a strange week of disappointments.
Did you go through a series of wedding disappointments? What were they?