It’s a Hard Day…

Hive, I’m having a rough time. The thing is—my grandma was diagnosed with stage-four ovarian cancer a little over two months ago. She’s been going to chemo, which has shrunk her cancer, and was told last week that she needs to have surgery in January for the doctors to get out what they can and see where it’s spread to. McGlovin and I went to visit her this weekend, in an effort to reassure her that her health is far, far more important to us than her presence at our wedding. In truth, though—I’m heartbroken.

Grandma and Grandpa just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary—60 years! They are crazy-adorable, and their devotion to each other is really inspirational, as cheesy as that always sounds. Check out one of their wedding pics:


Look how adorable they are!

I don’t know what to think. I always pictured my wedding with all four of my grandparents present, the way that everyone always does. Ten years ago, when we celebrated the 50th wedding anniversaries of both sets of grandparents, I never would have expected anything else. Then, two years ago, my mom’s dad died in an incredibly tragic accident. I was brokenhearted to realize that McGlovin would never get to know this man, whom I had admired so much, and that he would never know our children”¦

And now, I guess that I’m not upset at the fact that my dad’s parents won’t be present at our wedding—that, by itself, seems a little selfish. I just”¦I’m just really upset that we seem to be losing people who are important to me (and to my family!) at a time when we’re supposed to be celebrating. And it’s sudden too, you know? Like, when my mom told my sister and me that my grandma had cancer, we were stunned—she is kind of the iron woman in our family, expected to live to be 110 or so.


So, hive—it’s just really rough right now. I’ll get back to planning stories, Howie hijinks, etc. at some point in the next few days, but damn”¦life is really awful sometimes, you know?

** All photos are from the family vault.


Mrs. Gloves

Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
January 2013
The One with All the Pie Charts
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    village_skeptic 1861 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:58 pm

    Thinking of your grandmother. I learned on the night of my shower that my mom had what was likely the first stage of uterine cancer. She had a complete hysterectomy and everything is FINE now, but cancer is just devastating. Best wishes to your grandmother for beating the disease.

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    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 6:58 am

    I’m so, so sorry Gloves. We lost way too many family members and friends in the year that we were planning, all the way up to right before the wedding. It’s really tough to be happy and sad at the same time. Sending you lots of comfort and hugs!

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:31 am

    I’m so sorry Gloves, as you said, it is especially frustrating because this is supposed to be a time of celebration. I hope she gets better, big hugs.

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    ChicagoDreamer 509 posts, Busy bee @ 7:00 pm

    I’m so sorry you won’t have her there to celebrate with you. I can only imagine how bummed you are. Maybe you can talk with her on the phone or video chat briefly on your big day. Something to connect her with you throughout the day.

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    futuremrsdino 73 posts, Worker bee @ 2:38 am

    I never knew my mother’s father, and my maternal grandmother passed away 11 years ago. Both of my paternal grandparents passed away this year, and my last living great aunt.
    I was devastated too. I find solace knowing that they knew I was engaged and happy.
    All of my fiance’s grandparents have passed away too.
    I am so sad that there will be noone of that generation at my wedding , but they will be there in spirit, and we’re having their wedding pictures there on display.
    My symapthies to you at this time though, as it can’t be easy for you and your family so close to your wedding. I hope she can beat it and get healthy again. Big hugs.

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    mspiggy14 39 posts, Newbee @ 1:28 pm

    Your grandparents do make such an adorable couple and her dress is beautiful. I understand how you feel about losing people we love and so unexpectedly. All my grandparents have been deceased for over years and a man whom I considered like a father died of pancreatic cancer over a year ago. Life does suck sometimes, but since we’re alive we have to make the best of it. Although the memories are the ones that never seem to die.

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