Details, Smitails. Less is More.

As I mentioned before, we have been planning this wedding for over 16 months!!

And I have to say that almost every day, I see at least one wedding detail that I think is so fantastic that I must have it. Yet, I decided long ago that while I love details, I would limit what I would do. Maybe this goes against the grain of the fabulous legacy of detailed Weddingbee weddings, but for me, editing details out of our day is keeping me sane, and I think it allows me to practice the ‘less is more’, eco-chic mentality that I strive for.

With less than 50 days before the wedding, I am pretty low key about the thing. I was even able to get our wedding invitations out the door with the motto, ‘slow and steady wins the race’. Granted, I skipped a lot of invite details, like a beautiful pocketfold, the lovely ribbon tie, hand embossing each envelope (twice in some cases), a handmade map, an ever-so-crafty ‘note’ card, etc. You get my point.

While each of these details makes me swoon, I had a friend tell me last week that I was one of the most laid back brides he’d ever seen. While he doesn’t get to see the mess I’ve made of our apartment, it felt great knowing that I’ve kept some sense of self throughout this whole thing.

That said, here are some swoon-worthy details that I have just said no to:

Personalized Napkins. I love personalized napkins and I did notice what a nice touch they were at a few of the weddings I went to this summer.


For only about $30 bucks for 100, they aren’t that expensive. BUT I made the mistake of looking into personalized napkins right before I met with my financial adviser. She quickly pointed out that saving just a little bit helps. So I am saving my $30 for a rainy day. I hope no one is disappointed by the ivory napkins that the hotel provides.



I saw this DIY last week and thought it would be perfect, especially since I love collecting matchbooks myself.


This project was quickly moved from the ‘VERY cool’ pile to the ‘cool, but still not going to do it’ pile. It’s all about editing the little details.

Fabulous cupcake plates:


And of course, Mrs. Gummi Bear’s totally swoon-worthy cakes:


What would I do with 10 cake platters at the end of the day? I barely have enough room in my kitchen for one. Not to mention, this would be an expensive detail.

Shawls for the ladies:


It’s most likely going to be chilly, so I’d love to be able to keep all the ladies warm by providing wraps for everyone. But I have to remember that they are grown adults, and they can remember to dress properly for the occasion. It was another ‘extra’ thing struck off the list.

Cookie favors:


I love the idea of baking cookies the week before the wedding and wrapping them with love. But I said no to this detail because I don’t even own cookie sheets. I swear we are registered for them, but I can’t whip out cookies until after the big day.

Anyone else very carefully picking and choosing the details of their big day?


Mrs. Peep Toe

San Francisco
Wedding Date:
May 2016
On Apologizing
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    Julie, Guest @ 11:19 am

    So true so true!! everytime i find a detail i like so much i think to myself “would i have noticed this at a wedding i have been to recently” then if its not something everyone will notice or remember for that matter….i scrap it…no matter how cute it may be!!

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    West Coast Bride 708 posts, Busy bee @ 11:56 am

    I’m a big fan of this post! It seems like the last 60 days before the wedding is 100% details, and while I thought that would be the “fun part” it really isn’t any more or less fun–it’s just different from the early days of reviewing contracts and negotiating prices. And in those early days, I had to let certain things go, and accept what we could afford, what was important to us, etc. So, I’m approaching the details the same way. What do I really want to do? What will have an impact that I really care about? What is just plain old wedding fever that I don’t need? I think you Peeps have a pretty clear idea of your “big picture” which helps put all these little details in perspective.

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    Bass Lover, Guest @ 7:51 pm

    So happy to hear you decided against these items. I worked for a great catering company over the years, and I can’t tell you how many napkins, matchbooks, etc. were wasted. I always felt bad for the Brides, knowing that they put their hearts into those items!

    I’m very lucky…we are running off to elope! That decision has cut down a huge amount of “must haves” for the wedding.

    Thank you for your post, and reminding us all what is most important-getting married to the one you love!

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