A Junior What?

There are a lot of “junior things.” For instance, there’s Junior Mints.


There’s junior/senior prom, which bridesmaid Mang and I attended. Here’s our senior year (our dates not pictured because I’ve repressed all memories of them):

There’s this Junior, of course:


And what about Face from Nick Jr.? Anybody remember him?


But a junior bridesmaid? Does that just mean a very small bridesmaid? I mean, Bridesmaid Mang is very short…

Love to Know gives the following definition for a junior bridesmaid:

“The role of a junior bridesmaid is perfect for a girl who isn’t quite old enough to be a bridesmaid, but she is too old to be a flower girl. A junior bridesmaid’s role offers those in-betweens the opportunity to participate in the wedding and be an important part of the bridal party.”

OK, that’s helpful. Love to Know also goes on to list the responsibilities of the junior girl. (Visit the website for a longer explanation.)

  • Purchase a Dress – a.k.a. have Mom and Dad buy it
  • Attend the Rehearsal
  • Participate in the Processional – will go down the aisle; doesn’t need an escort
  • During the Ceremony – stand up with Team Wedding
  • Receiving Line – not part of the line if not part of the family
  • During the Reception – hand out things
  • Attending a Shower– doesn’t plan, but welcome to attend
  • Attend a Bachelorette Party – um, if appropriate

So what does this have to do with us? Well, we’re having a junior in Team Wedding. After asking four out of five of Mr. G’s siblings to be in our wedding, it didn’t seem right to leave out FSIL LB just because she wasn’t quite old enough to be on the team. This way all of Mr. Giraffe’s sibs get to be part of our day.

FSIL LB, me, & TB circa 2007

Even though I’m not quite sure about BM dresses yet, I’m already thinking about our JBM dress. It’s really important to me that LB is dressed “age appropriately.” I mean, sure, she’ll be standing with a group of twentysomethings, but she’ll just barely turn 13 before W day. Mr. G and I don’t want anything too short or low cut. I also read online (and everything the Internet says is true) that it’s not appropriate for a JBM to wear a strapless dress.

On the other hand, LB will be a teenager, and I don’t want her looking “too young.” I don’t think she’d feel special if she didn’t get to look “fancy” like her older sister and FSIL. (Sidebar: She already calls me her sister. How sweet, right? Or at least she has me down as “sister” on her Facebook page. Same difference.)

Believe it or not, it’s been really hard to find a dress that’s not too young or old.


Uhhhh, sorry House of Brides, but even though you’re telling me that that’s a JBM dress, I don’t quite think it is.

This dress, on the other hand, was also marked a JBM dress, but it’s too young.


So where does that leave us? I had no clue. Once I find some dresses that are worth considering, I’ll share them with you guys for sure.

You want to know the real trouble, though?

Differentiating LB from the rest of the team. I want her to look like a JBM, not a BM (which is why she’s not wearing a dress for a 25-year-old). The problem is that I asked LB to be in the wedding when she was 11. She’s 12 now and recently hit her growth spurt—she’s shooting up like a weed. She’s now taller than two BMs, the same height as one, and only two inches shorter than me. Oh man! It’s so hilarious—it seriously cracks me up.

Anyone else figure out how to dress a junior bridesmaid? Or is it really just kind of impossible?


Mrs. Giraffe

Wedding Date:
May 2011
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    Florin 70 posts, Worker bee @ 3:32 pm

    I’m calling my youngest sister a bridesmaid even though she’ll only be 13. My other 23 year old sister is a bridesmaid and I don’t want the younger one to feel cheated. I’m getting their dresses both from J. Crew and the 13 year old can wear one in the petite sizes. Not all of their designs are age appropriate, but they have some that will work.

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    Ms. Anemone 624 posts, Busy bee @ 4:25 pm

    Haha, I have always been a little confused by the whole JBM scene, too–but we are going to have one!
    My FSIL will also just be 13 before the wedding. I have no idea what to do for her dress yet!

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    MissCatherine 278 posts, Helper bee @ 4:31 pm

    Hmm I think that Mori Lee has some “sweet 15” type dresses that would be totally pretty for a junior bridesmaid. Take a look – and see if you can find any that aren’t too “cleavagey” 🙂

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    Wren 12 posts, Newbee @ 4:45 pm

    Have you looked at Aria for bridesmaid dresses? I know Ms. Sloth mentioned it (and the try on program) for her gown, but it’s perfect for BMs and JBMs. They are a bit on the expensive side, but they’re great quality. There are only stores in DC, Boston, and LA, but the dresses are amazing. And they have about a trillion styles, including styles for flower girls. I’m sure you and your JBM will find something to love! I’m putting the website here too!

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    Molly, Guest @ 8:26 pm

    My niece is going to be a bridesmaid (technically a junior bridesmaid, since she’ll be 11. But I’m not making the distinction. My nephew is a groomsman and he’s 13 – so they’ll be each other’s “escorts”.) My bridesmaids gowns are by Priscilla of Boston and they will outfit Misses’ sized bridesmaids or flower girls. Nothing over a little girl’s size 6. My niece is tall, but a skinny thing. I just bought her a size 2. I have a wonderful seamstress who will make thick straps out of the material cut off when it’s shortened.

    The only thing I’m doing for her that’s different is that HER pearl necklace/earrings have smaller pearls and I’m not letting her wear heels.

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    jgoulart 1069 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:06 pm

    I’m sorry your having troubles finding a dress for your JBM, and I can see how it’d be tough. I agree that a cardigan might help or maybe a dress she chooses in your color palette?

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    heathermarie18 71 posts, Worker bee @ 9:24 pm

    My junior bridesmaids were 9 and 11 (the 9 year old is to the far left and the 11 year old is to the far right… we’re all so short they pretty much blend right in!):


    I chose the color and I let all of my bridesmaids pick their own dresses from David’s Bridal (including the little girls!). My 4 bridesmaids had different strapless dresses; my junior bridesmaids had dresses with straps and different navy blue sashes. I think they looked great!

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    anarpo 8 posts, Newbee @ 7:39 am

    Egads! This is exactly what’s happening with my planning. My wedding will definitely be low-key (no bridal party), but I wanted my neices to take part. I spent the greater part of my childhood wishing I could be a flower girl and it never happened, so I decided that I wanted my neices to feel like super-duper-pretty-princesses and fuss over them while I get fussed over. I’ve decided that I was going to let the older one (10) decide if she wanted to go frou-frou and dress the younger one (6) accordingly. I think that having a less formal affair is going to make the process a bit easier. Because of their age differences, I also don’t want them to have the exact same dress – just simple and complementary dresses. Maybe have fun with the shoes and other accessories. Good luck!!

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    jordynrose 6351 posts, Bee Keeper @ 12:38 am

    I totally remember Face!

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