Pre-Reqs to “Yes!”

On to the sparkly stuff!

Now, as you may have read in my pre-proposal post, Mr. Manatee initially proposed lacking two very important things by American standards:

  1. Permission from my parents
  2. Shiny marriage bribery (you know, to convince us pretty ladies to give up the “single ladies” dance)

Anyway, after that first initial oops, my knight in shining armor circled around for a second charge prepared! He liked to tease me all throughout the year that followed by ducking into my childhood home to “help move furniture” or “just to check in.” He practically drove me crazy with curiosity several times. Of course, my parents adore him as much as I do, and he needn’t have been worried about their blessing. When he finally did ask, I called my mother practically beside myself with happiness. She is completely amazing, because she made sure to remember every detail of his nervous request and relayed it to me later that night!

When it came to the ring, he did the perfect thing. I was torn between wanting it to be a complete surprise, and wanting to pick it myself. Let’s face it, I had been creeping the Zales website for months now, even going so far as to put bookmarks titled “HINT” on his desktop. I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted…or so I thought. Mr. Manatee decided one day we should just “drop by” Zales (in a completely casual voice) during a normal trip to the mall, and I did my best to keep my shit together. The saleslady sat me in front of a long, eye-popping case of diamond rings and asked me to pick a few to try on. Luckily for Mr. Manatee, I’ve never been a fan of huge, Texas-sized diamond monsters, the kind all my single friends like to pin on Pinterest. I wanted something simple, white gold, and that didn’t stick up too high on my finger (is there a term for that?). Since I have “piano fingers,” which is a nice term for “big hands,” I also wanted something with a slightly thicker band. When I said nothing over a carat, the lady looked at me like I had two heads. Nevertheless. Despite my diamond-high, I eventually narrowed it down to three contenders.




Above images via Zales

I liked the three stone because, well, that’s what my mother had. It was classic and traditional, but it wasn’t exactly making my heart stop. The round cut (middle) had been a favorite for a while, and it was actually the first to show up on the desktop. The cushion cut ring is not the exact ring they had at Zales, as I was never actually able to find it on the website. The one pictured is probably a little prettier/bigger than the one I tried on in the store. He requested I pick three rings for the most suspense, but in my mind it was a tie between the round and the cushion cut. The cushion cut was obviously gorgeous and trendy, but I couldn’t stop thinking about the uniqueness of the round cut. At this point the saleslady got kind of bitchy and kept asking me to pick one already, obviously missing the point of the exercise. Manatee asked me to make myself scarce, and I flounced out of there unable to believe it was actually happening. After wandering around Forever 21 for 20 minutes, so anxious I couldn’t even find anything I liked (at first), he called to say it was all done. And there he was waiting for me outside the store, holding that beautiful gray bag and I’m looking at it like…


And I was on cloud nine all the way home because it was actually happening, until he started teasing me that he actually just bought a really nice watch for his dad. This sent me into such a state of despair that he was serious that he has to show me a little peek of the outside of the little square box before I was calm. I had to patiently (yeah right) wait another week to find out what was inside that box, but it was so worth it!

Which one is your favorite? Did you help pick your ring?


Miss Manatee

Fort Worth, TX
Wedding Date:
June 2013
Cauldrons on the Chesapeake: Exploring Annapolis
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  1. Member
    lisaelanna 531 posts, Busy bee @ 3:03 pm

    My husband and I went ring shopping together and I picked my ring. I’m SO GLAD we did it that way because what I’d originally thought I’d want turned out to be what I liked the least once it was actually on my finger. I’m so happy with my ring and while there was less surprise about the fact that we’d soon be getting engaged I’d definitely do it that way again. I really like your fiance’s method of having you narrow it to 3 and then him making the final choice, though 🙂 Never would have thought of that…

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    s2013 1304 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:22 pm

    Your story made me smile! Asking my father’s permission was important to me as well. My fiance and I often swtich phones as his personal cell is also the cell/phone number we use for business calls. So, if he has plans I will stay home with the phone working, while he takes our “personal number” cell out and about. Anyway I went to call my dad one day from his phone and I saw that my fiance had called him 2 days earlier and they spoke for 17 minutes!!! Eek! I knew after that it was definitely coming soon! The suspense is well worth it in the end 🙂

    PS My fiance had me narrow it down to 2 rings. He picked my favorite of the 2 🙂

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:27 pm

    I can’t imagine knowing he has the ring and having to wait to get it, it makes me glad I didn’t know when Mr. P bought mine!

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    This Time Round 10219 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 5:51 pm

    Great post… and yes so many emotions and “incredible” moments in getting Engaged.

    Mr TTR asked for my Elderly Father’s Blessing… which I thought was sooo sweet.

    This was very important to me, because my first husband didn’t interact with my Dad at all on the issue of us getting married (and I think that hurt my Father’s Feelings)

    The Blessing came in the interim between the Non-Proposal Proposal in Myrtle Beach on vacation, and us finding a ring.

    When it came to The E-Ring, Mr TTR and I went shopping together… as I had told him upfront months previous that if a Proposal was in the works, that it was important to me to LOVE the ring, because I was going to wear it forever. And 2 other things…
    (a) Not all rings suit my short stubby fingers, and
    (b) I didn’t want any sort of ring that reminded me of my first marriage.

    Good thing we chatted / shopped together, because Mr TTR said later he never would have chosen what I ultimately did. He only thought there were solitaires… and that would have been ALL WRONG because…
    (a) it didn’t suit me, and
    (b) it would have been the same style as my first E-Ring

    In the end we chose the ring together much like you and Mr M did, but in my case we had to wait for the setting to come in, the Feature Diamond to be mounted etc. Those were a very long 2 weeks but you can be assured that I was grinning from ear to ear the whole time (and ever since).

    In the end, after the Jewellery Store called to say the ring was in… we went, picked it up, and he slipped it on my finger. Done deal.

    Being Engaged really is an amazing feeling !!

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    redherring 1815 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:51 pm

    Personally, I’m a fan of the middle ring. However, I’m of the opinion that the perfect ring for any person is the ring they love the most. One of my closest friends absolutely loves her e-ring, and I do not like it at all. I love my e-ring, and I strongly suspect that my same friend doesn’t like it. When my husband was ring shopping, the only input I provided was “platinum band”, and he rocked it out.

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:39 pm

    ooh, so hard to pick a favorite ring. I remember that high when PBear and I went ring shopping. It’s just such an exciting time. I’m so glad we went together. The ring we picked out together is not exactly what I would have picked, nor what he would have picked for me, but in some way, it’s absolutely perfect for us.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:07 pm

    I love the first one, but I’m biased because mine is swirly.

    I could have never, ever, ever! bear to see him holding the bag with the ring and not take a look, seriously, I don’t know how you managed.

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:22 pm

    I love both the three diamond ones as my mum has a ring similar to it! I can actually feel your anxiety about it all through your words, you paint such a picture!

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