How is it possible that planning a wedding, just one day out of your whole life, can present so many of the most awkward moments you’ll ever experience? You know what I’m talking about… moments like:
“I’m so excited about coming to your wedding!” (Umm… what makes you think you’re invited?)
“You’re just going to love my new boyfriend. He’ll be at the wedding!” (And he’s definitely not invited…)
or worst of all…
“I am going to be a bridesmaid, right?”
And as if there isn’t enough social awkwardness in the world already, this technological world that we live in now, filled with inventions like Facebook and Twitter, manages to introduce a whole new level of awkwardness!
I feel like Facebook is such an unchartered area as far as etiquette is concerned. It has never been so easy to know everything about a person’s life without even having a conversation with them. How many of you have seen someone’s wedding date on the stalker feed and made sure to check back later to browse through all their wedding photos, all without them knowing that you’re even aware they’ve gotten married? I’m totally guilty of this. Please say you’ve done this, or something like this before, so I don’t look like a total weirdo.
Anyway, as much as I like to utilize Facebook to see what other people are up to, I’m a pretty private person myself. I have a Facebook to keep in touch with friends, but I rarely include personal information on it. I’ve actually never even updated my status! When it comes to the wedding, my parents always taught me that it is rude to talk about an event that someone is not invited to in front of them, especially if they know other people who are invited, or have a reason to believe that they might be invited. (Obviously if someone asks me a question about the wedding, I’ll answer. I can’t just ignore them. But I do try my best to avoid it!) What drives me crazy about Facebook is that I can’t stop other people from writing about my wedding on my wall or posting pictures from wedding-related events for all to see. And if I tell them to stop, it makes me look like a killjoy.
Also, have you noticed how people manage to come out of the woodwork once you get a Facebook?
Photo Souce: Someecards
Seriously! People who I haven’t talked to in years send me a friend request, and then act like they’re coming to the wedding! And I’ve also noticed that people are a lot gutsier online than in person. I’ve received so many awkward comments along the lines of, “Saw you’re getting married! I better get an invitation!” I feel like most people would never say this if they saw me in person!
Anyway, I hate hurting people’s feelings. I know it’s inevitable, but I’d love to avoid it. I’ve even considered deleting my Facebook for a while, until the wedding has passed… or maybe posting a note along with our first wedding photo: “Friends and family: We are so excited to announce that we are now husband and wife. We chose to have a small, out of town wedding, and were unable to include everyone. Thanks for your understanding!” <– How awkward is that though? I guess my main hope is that we don’t lose any friends due to the wedding.
Photo Source: Someecards
So, what are your opinions on Facebook wedding etiquette? Have you put your wedding out there, or do you tend to keep it more private? (I totally understand, and even expect some of you to respectfully disagree with me.) Have you experienced any awkward moments in your wedding planning? Please share! As weird as it is in the moment, awkwardness can be strangely entertaining when retold! 🙂