Toadally Us: Thank You, Love

The father-daughter dance was one of those things I didn’t sweat. It was happening no matter what, that was a given. I previously talked about choosing a song; ultimately, I decided to let my dad take that bullet and pick the song. It went pretty much like when I asked him to walk me down the aisle. “Hey Dad, pick a song for our dance.” “Why should I pick it?””¦and we left it there.

It was not until after my first dance with Mr. Toadstool that my mom brought it up, and we started it again: “You pick a song; no, you pick a song”¦”

A bit later the band announced the bride’s dance with her father: “Finally, he picked a song,” I thought. I walked to the center of the dance floor and met my dad there, and the music started.


I dance holding my dad’s thumb, even though my hands seem too big now.

I recognized the song instantly. It was an instrumental version, but I’ve known it all my life. I was singing in my head. It was “Gracias Amor” (“Thank You, Love”), a widely known song about a guy thanking his “love” for everything good in his life—pretty generic. It was my parents’ first-dance song.

At that moment my dad whispered in my ear: “This was your mom’s and my first-dance song.” “I know. Is that why you picked it?” “I didn’t pick it, I thought it was you.” And then it clicked—my mom.



Mom, Grandma, and one of my cousins looking at us

Turns out it was not my mom who asked for the song. Mr. Toadstool, tired of our indecision, approached the band and asked for the most popular first-dance/father-daughter dance song. He seized the moment and took his mom to the dance floor.


And here is when we go full circle—turns out this was also Mr. Toadstool’s parents’ first-dance song.


The song ended. We embraced, laughed at ourselves, and made our way out the dance floor.


Did you have a father-daughter dance? Who picked the song?

*All photos by Alberto Alcorta Photography




Mrs. Toadstool

Obregon, Mexico
Wedding Date:
December 2012
We've Partnered with Minted to Bring You Community Designed Stationery!
Gardens and Pie and Reading in the Park

Related Posts

Add a comment


  1. Member
    lealorali 4827 posts, Honey bee @ 5:49 pm

    I picked Tim McGraw’s “When the stars go blue” for our first dance.
    It was so awkward. Ugh. The song was perfect but my dad and I are not… into dancing. I wish I didn’t do it.

  2. Guest Icon Guest
    kelsey, Guest @ 6:26 pm

    The first EVER wedding photography shot that is a Must Have for me… is this one of your mom watching you and your dad have your first dance. I teared up! So precious.

  3. bluewhale Bee
    bluewhale 638 posts, Busy bee @ 6:53 pm

    Whaaaaaaat. That’s crazy. Both your parents and his parents danced to the same song? And then you had it at your wedding? Amazing.

  4. Member
    ledelady 210 posts, Helper bee @ 7:04 pm

    What a fantastic story!

    My Dad and I didn’t want our dance to be a big, sappy, cry fest. Being huge Notre Dame fans we picked a song called “Here Come the Irish” (which is about the football team) and when it got to the fiddle part I hiked up my dress and my Dad, brother and I did a jig. It was a huuuuuge hit and something I’ll always smile about!

  5. Member
    bridesmomma 482 posts, Helper bee @ 10:35 pm

    I love the photo of your dad & you dancing…and your mom in the background. So sweet!

  6. Member
    thatredheadedbride 791 posts, Busy bee @ 4:43 am

    We picked “My Girl” as the father/daughter dance song. It’s not too sappy, short, and something everybody knows.

    My first choice was “Jump” by VanHalen, but my mom nixed that one pretty quickly :-\ “Jump” is a song my dad and I love turning up and singing to in the car.

  7. Member
    jessc4343 219 posts, Helper bee @ 8:27 am

    No way! What a cool story!!

  8. mswaterfall Bee
    Mrs. Waterfall 1403 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:23 am

    What a crazy coincidence! Sneaky Mr. Toadstool!

  9. mspony Bee
    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 3:31 pm

    The picture with your mom watching is just perfect!

add a comment

Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors