I’ve basically yammered on about the venue, traditions, and The Bighorn couple so far (I’m really not that vain, I swear).
Well, here’s the “obligatory dress post.”
So before we continue, I love you Mr. Big, but”¦
Image via AllPosters.com
Now, where were we?
Oh yes, dresses!
Like most girls, when I got engaged, I started thinking about the kind of dress I wanted to wear. Unfortunately, unlike most girls, I had no idea what I liked!
I had never dreamt about, fantasised about, or even thought about my engagement and consequent marriage until Mr. Big put a ring on it. I was never the “wear a dress” girl, and had only really begun to wear dresses when I was with Mr. Big. (He made me feel more feminine, if that’s even possible!)
As such, when I decided to go looking for dresses, I was effectively overwhelmed by choice.
Empire, A-line, princess, mermaid, ball gown, trumpet, lace overlay, satin, chiffon, floor length, brush length, chapel train, strapless, halter—
You understand, hive—I was suffering dress overload.
I stopped looking for a little bit and started from the basics, like length. I knew I wanted it to be down to the floor. Did I want a train? Yes, a short one. How about the shape? Apparently, the A-line was the most flattering.
Embellishments? Sure! I just didn’t want it to cost an arm and a leg. How about lace? I love lace, why not!
By asking myself little questions and then researching all the things, I managed to narrow down my choices. I loved lace, wanted a bit of embellishment, believed A-line would look the most flattering on me, wanted a small-ish train, and didn’t want my dress to be strapless.
So then what? Well, pictures are always nice!
I turned to Pinterest and the internet at large.
In my search for the dress, I came across these beauties:
Annie, by Etsy shop Red Doll
Daphne, by the wonderful Shop Ruche
Katie, by Bride’s Desire, Wendy Sullivan
Olivia Wilde in that stunning Reem Acra dress! / Image via Elizabeth Ashleigh
So it seems my fondness for loose, flow-y, gorgeous dresses outweighed the thought that the A-line would be better for my more curvaceous figure. So what’s a girl to do?
Well, I went and tried on dresses!
And, didn’t get any pictures.* (Sorry guys!)
I wasn’t able to try on these dresses specifically, but I did get to try on the Katie. The drop waist absolutely flattered my figure. I had hips, people! And my girls were feeling fantastic! I also loved the lace overlay and the chiffon fabric. But it was much more than I was willing to pay, so I didn’t end up purchasing the dress. Plus, I wanted to shop around a little bit before dumping a whole lotta moola on a dress.
I did get the details of the nice sales consultant, and Mama Bighorn, MoH M&Ms, Groom’s Homie Oddball, and I decided to head home.
As I agonised over whether or not to pull the trigger on the Katie, Mama Bighorn recommended a local dressmaker, Mandy Heng. Now, Mandy is not just a dressmaker, but she’s also a family friend’s daughter. I didn’t want to feel like I was swindling money from her because of that fact, though, so when I contacted her, I made no mention of that connection.
We chatted over email, I sent her some inspiration pictures and gave her some ideas, and we set up a consultation. At the same time, I decided I wanted to try on more dresses to really make sure that what I wanted was what I really wanted. I also wanted to know what kinds of dresses my bridesmaids would be wearing because (a) they’re all different heights and sizes and (b) I want them to look as beautiful as I do on the day!
So with that, my bridesmaids, Friend N, and I planned an outing before my initial consultation with Mandy. Next up, a day of changing dresses, eating pho, and finding a dress that completely blew my mind.
Was anyone else drawn to different dresses that you had completely no idea you would like?
*I was about 15kgs/33lbs (perhaps more!) heavier back then, so I hated pictures of myself, especially in beautiful white dresses.