PaC Man & Wife: Better Together

Before we delve into the gooey-ness that is the first dance, allow me to give you the back story.

One month before our wedding, I decided we HAD to take dance lessons.


Neither of us knew how to dance. My previous experience with dancing consisted of tap/ballet classes as a pre-schooler, baton twirling (which I shouldn’t count as dance because really it’s just marching in place while my hands did the work), and bailing out of high school dance team tryouts after I realized the choreography was way too advanced. Marching band was as far as my feet took me. Mr. PaC’s dance skills extend only to those of the strobe light and glow stick variety.


Mr. PaC leads us to the center of the room.


Surreal moment: Oh my goodness, we’re really about to do this!

(both guest photos)

After failed attempts to teach ourselves some moves via YouTube videos, it became painfully obvious that we needed a professional. Our first class was a mere two weeks before the wedding. We committed to five one-hour private classes and I hoped it would be enough time. I thought I might cry out of frustration during our first class (OMG, it did not go well), but the instructor broke through my mental block and taught me to let go. I learned to set aside any awkwardness and be comfortable with a level of discomfort. Mr. PaC did too when he quipped, “You get over the fact that you’re dancing with another dude.” The biggest takeaway for me was when our instructor got rid of my negative self-talk by explaining how illogical it was to beat myself up for not picking up a dance step the first time around when I’d never had previous formal instruction. Oh.


Whispering words of encouragement to my hesitant groom

(guest photo)

In those few dance lessons, our patient instructor worked a miracle! Not only was I relaxed about our first dance, I was “let’s do this!” confident. And that confidence carried over into the rest of the night. When we signed up for lessons, I didn’t appreciate how it would transform me so I could truly relax and enjoy every bit of our wedding.



Enjoy it, we did!

 So cue up the music and scroll through the wonderful images from our first dance to Jack Johnson’s “Better Together.”


What dance did we learn? The foxtrot. We started with the basics so the “slow, slow; quick, quick” rhythm would become more natural before progressing to promenades and under-arm turns.


Coming out of a spin. Mr. PaC really enjoyed twirling me ’round.


Promenading was his go-to move when he got in a jam…until he promenaded us to the edge of our guests. But we had fun with it!


Can you see my sister in the background? She looks like she’s about to bawl her eyes out.

For the last two classes, I practiced in my wedding shoes. That’s a great tip, by the way, especially since you can learn your shoes’ quirks, like a tendency to slip off your heels, so you’re not surprised on your wedding day.


Maintaining our dance frame and maybe “guiding” Mr. PaC a little bit

(guest photo)

Would you be surprised if I revealed dancing in a wedding dress is not easy? Aside from dress fittings and the initial salon appointment, you probably haven’t walked or moved much in it. Practicing your first dance while wearing your gown is probably out of the question, but it’s a tricky detail to keep in mind. As my foot would glide back, it would catch the inside hem, so I had to be extra careful to toe the line between popping out of my shoes and avoiding stepping on the gown.



(both guest photos)


One last spin as the music fades


Smoochy time (My, look at all the cameras…*sheepish grin*)

Stay close because there are some tear-jerker photos in the very next recap!

 (all photos by Heather Fowler Photography, unless otherwise noted)


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Mrs. Pain au Chocolat

Wilmington, DE
Wedding Date:
June 2011
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  1. mspony Bee
    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 1:21 pm

    Your lessons totally payed off, you two look like pros in these pictures!

  2. msdragon Bee
    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 2:44 pm

    You guys look great! Totally natural and relaxed.

    I wish we had taken lessons — and I agree, dancing in one’s dress is a whole different ballgame.

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    shaynapunim 654 posts, Busy bee @ 3:17 pm

    I’m tempted to take lessons, because FH and I are both awkward dancers, ha ha!! I’m glad it worked out well for you. 🙂

  4. painauchocolat Bee
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:54 pm

    @Mrs. Pony: Aww, thank you. I think it helps a lot that they are photos and not movies!

    @Mrs. Dragon: Right! I don’t see any way around making it less awkward unless one were to practice while wearing it with the SO blindfolded??

    @shaynapunim: I can’t recommend lessons strongly enough. If you feel awkward or self-conscious just thinking about it, try a first step of some Youtube videos and see how you do. We needed a third-party to intervene and set us on the right path. 😉

  5. mstoadstool Bee
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:47 pm

    I love that you took classes, how perfect!

  6. msdoe Bee
    msdoe 639 posts, Busy bee @ 7:18 pm

    Haha I love that you were “guiding” Mr. PAC…I happened to do the same thing…numerous times 🙂 And as you know, apparently the only way to dance this song is to the fox trot! So beautiful!

  7. painauchocolat Bee
    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:15 pm

    @Miss Toadstool: It was only because of classes that we did not embarrass ourselves! I would have been so self-conscious that dancing during most of the night wouldn’t have been enjoyable. And I wasn’t having that at our wedding.

    @Mrs. Doe: It was SO hard not to give him hints or otherwise guide him. He was nervous because he kept forgetting the steps in the days before and naturally I wanted to help out any way I could, but we were at the mercy of his feet!

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