For Sure Doing A First Look

Wednesday, Miss Blue Whale wrote about why she’s not having a first look. Everyone has their own perspective, and what’s right for one person may not be what’s right for another person, so today I thought I’d explain why McGlovin and I are definitely doing a first look.

When we first started planning, I was really waffling—everyone says that the first time he sees you is supposed to be so magical, and that “27 dresses” moment when you’re watching the groom watch his bride is so pivotal, etc. I asked Gloves what he thought. He said that it really wasn’t important to him at all—the first time we see each other is guaranteed to be crazy special—it’s the day we’re getting married! Imma be a Mrs. and he’s going to be my Mister. And he’s so right—how could that not be the best moment of my day?

Also, I mean—I don’t necessarily know if I want to share that moment with everyone else. Let’s be honest—I don’t. At all. When we do our first look, we will be looking directly at one another, not at all worrying about what everyone else thinks of us, because there’s won’t be an “everyone else!” Just me and the mister. Plus, then I can tell him exactly what I’m thinking—he probably looks so amazing, and I’m probably so excited to be getting married, and I probably had way too much coffee this morning, and Howie probably accidentally ate my garter while we were getting our hair done. And he’ll probably tell me how much he likes my dress or hair and that the best man spilled coffee all over his mom’s white carpet and everyone almost died. These things are likely nervous chatter, of course, but they’re exactly what our relationship is about! It would kill me to see him for the first time at the altar, and have to sit silently for an hour before I could say anything to him.

Finally, regarding the pictures. McGlovin and I have a serious Catholic gap on our wedding day—ceremony from 2:30-3:30 and the cocktail hour at 5:30. So, we have plenty of time for pics between the ceremony and the reception and don’t need those extra pictures. But, really—how can you resist photos like these?


The sheer joy in Mrs. Poodle’s first hug with her husband to be! Photo from the ‘bee, taken by Next Exit Photography


Adorable Mrs. Brooch, collecting herself :) Photo from the ”˜bee, taken by Graham Terhune


Look at how emotional the Pin Cushions are! Photo from the ”˜bee, taken by Steep Street Photography


Mr. Frog’s reaction to his Mrs. is priceless. Photo from the ”˜bee, taken by Stephanie Williams

Since we just discussed this topic yesterday, I don’t have any questions for you, but I must say”¦I could not be any more excited to see McGlovin, all dressed up and looking amazing, all by my lonesome (with our photographer) at an undisclosed location before our wedding! ohemgee, pretty super excited


Mrs. Gloves

Columbus, Ohio
Wedding Date:
January 2013
Burnin' Love: #dragonwedding
PaC Man & Wife: When I'm 64
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    ilikeballet 277 posts, Helper bee @ 3:37 pm

    We’re totally doing one too. We’re both going to be emotional and we’d rather do that with just us and the photographer rather than us and 100 people!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:16 pm

    I definitely recommend the first look, it was the best part of our day and the only moment just for us all day. It was completely special and didn’t take away from the walk down the aisle either.

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    otter 1321 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:42 pm

    I love this! We’re doing a first look, too! I love seeing all the Bees photos that have done them 🙂

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    brooch 1760 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:20 am

    I’m definitely an advocate for the first look- that photo is one of my faaaaaavorites! In fact, all the photos we took right after our the very best from the day! Cheers to first looks!

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    AT, Guest @ 11:14 am

    We did a first look but only so that our guests would not have any gap between ceremony and the reception. We did 20 mins in the park before the ceremony. Then we did party and fam photos quickly during the cocktail hour before the reception. I did not want the day to be a photo shoot! We got plenty of pics and our guests were never left waiting around and the event never lost momentum.

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    Kent Wedding Photographer, Guest @ 1:04 pm

    Here in the UK first looks separate from the actual ceremony are still really unusual, even unheard of by most couples! As a wedding photographer I love the idea of being able to photograph one, and having seen how busy and hectic most weddings are for the couple, I think that having a private ‘first look’ moment is a lovely way of enjoying some very special and private moments together on your wedding day that can only add to your day.

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    blonde17jess 1290 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:08 am

    I am still torn on whether or not we will do a first look… I definitely love the idea of having private time for just the two of us and being able to talk (like Miss Toadstool, I can’t help but think we’d be whispering during the ceremony!), but in the same breath, I do like the “traditional” manner of the first look being during the ceremony. FI and I will have to make a pros/cons list to decide…

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