I’ve mentioned before briefly that I was incredibly close to my grandparents on my mother’s side. As the child of a teen mom (long before teenage pregnancy was cool enough to have a TV show—WTF MTV?!), I spent a HUGE amount of time with my grandparents. They had every bit as much a hand in raising me as my actual parents. When I was younger I was terrified of losing them, but the unavoidable finally happened when I was in college and again last December. Devastated doesn’t even begin to cover it, and there is a large part of me that will NEVER stop mourning the loss of them. So it was extremely important to me that I honor them at my wedding. Then in May, we lost Mr. Orchard’s Gaga. Our hearts broke again as we added one more to our memorial list. There are several ways to honor lost loved ones, and we plan on having a photo table at the reception that features all of the special family members and friends we will be missing on our wedding day, but we both knew we wanted to do something more for our grandparents.
In my bouquet I will have several loose flowers. Mr. O will meet me at the end of the aisle after I walk down it, and we will take those flowers and place them on the seats that our grandparents would have occupied in the front row, where their pictures will be placed during the ceremony. It will be a separate action—Mr. Orchard will place his grandparents’ flowers and I will handle mine. We will not discuss it or explain it, the music will not change, but those who need to know will realize what we are doing. I want to believe that they will be somewhere close watching over us on that day, and I wanted to publicly show that we are thinking of them. I am sure it will be emotional for us, but it’s important that we do it. After we return to the center aisle we will begin the ceremony.
How will you honor those who have passed on at your wedding?