“So…What Exactly Happens at a Wedding?”

I wish I was joking, but this is a question Mr. Squirrel really asked me.


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Here I am, with a GOR-geous ring on my finger, and my fiance is asking me to define a wedding. Hmm. Maybe he should’ve thought about this on the front end?

So here’s the back story…

I come from a VERY large, VERY loud Catholic family. I have six siblings and about 60 first cousins. This is just the immediate family, plus SIL and BIL. Here we are in our full Squirrel glory:


I’m rocking the chevron in the back. / Personal photo

I go to maybe four family weddings a year. In the past two years, my brother and sister both got married, so in a way it feels like “another month, another wedding.” Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE WEDDINGS. So much love, so much fun!

MOH C’s wedding:


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Bro M’s wedding:


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So, feeling like a wedding expert, I was taken aback when Mr. Squirrel asked what happens at a wedding.

Wait for it…

At the time he asked, he had NEVER been to a wedding.


How is this possible for a 27-year-old man, you may ask? Well, a number of his friends were married pretty young, but they all had very small ceremonies with only limited family invited. His two older brothers are loving the bachelor life and his two cousins who are married both had weddings far away that Mr. Squirrel couldn’t attend.

So now we are left with:

A self proclaimed wedding expert (moi)


A wedding newborn baby (him)

= the need for some serious communication

Overall, what I thought would be a challenge is actually helping us create the wedding we BOTH really want. For example, when I started to talk about what seemed like a standard wedding component, a bouquet toss, Mr. Squirrel asked, “So, what’s that all about?” I proceeded to explain the background. After we talked about it for a few minutes, I realized this isn’t even something I want at our wedding…why am I trying to convince Mr. Squirrel if I can’t even sell it to myself? This same conversation has happened numerous times. There are certain elements of the wedding I would have taken for granted and included, but once the two of us sit down go over the “tradition” sometimes we don’t feel like it is really “us.” (Moving forward, we can just call that not being Squirrelicious.)

Has anyone else ever automatically assumed they would do something at their wedding and then once you took the time to sit and think about it, decided it wasn’t for you?

***Since this initial conversation, Mr. Squirrel has been to TWO weddings. 🙂 (My sister’s and cousin’s!)


Mrs. Squirrel

Tampa, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. Member
    ecjohnson 157 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:44 pm

    haha this is an awesome story!

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    anemonie 1578 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:51 pm

    We briefly considered the garter toss and then realized it would entail my husband going up my skirt in from of our families. No, thank you! We also nixed family dances, some of the toasts…

    We had our DJ worried we didn’t have enough “events” in our wedding. (My response: pfffffft. That’s silly.) Luckily, our crowd is full of dancers and drinkers, so the party lasted well into the night without including every single “traditional event” that didn’t suit us.

    Also, you are hi-larious. I might love you. Too forward?

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:05 pm

    haha, love that first “say what?” photo!! What a great way to get the wedding conversation going!

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    mstreasure 1655 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:10 pm

    Yay for big Catholic families! I’m the oldest of 5 kids and have tons of cousins, too (though not quite as many as you!).

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:46 pm

    yup, that sounds like every conversation I’ve ever had with PBear about the wedding. lol

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    hawk 1117 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:23 am

    Love that picture of you! When I started planning, I’d only ever been to one wedding in my entire life, so I felt a little bit lost!

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    missmovies 351 posts, Helper bee @ 8:29 am

    Lol! FI and I are on the same page when it comes to the traditions we want at our wedding – NONE – but no one else is, which leaves us perpetually explaining why.

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    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 10:12 am

    ha awesome! this gives you a great opp to figure out what you actually care about though.

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    Kendall Leigh, Guest @ 2:33 pm

    Wow your family’s adorable!
    And haha that’s a hilarious story. I personally am not a fan of the bouquet toss either.

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:01 pm

    I think it’s very important to have a wedding that represent both of you, it is very easy to go with the “we’re supposed to do this” flow, when in reality you are only supposed to do things that are important to you two.

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