Groom’s Grief

When I talked to you before about Sparky’s wedding day clothing plans, I mentioned that he is a classy dude with strong opinions about clothing. This has not changed throughout the course of wedding planning and, in fact, may have even heightened his awareness of it.

So, what I’m writing about today is something we who are involved in wedding planning are aware of: regret. Except, instead of me having dress regret, Sparky had tuxedo regret.

Yes, my beloved groom second guessed the custom-made tuxedo he purchased. It’s endearing that he cares so much, and it makes me laugh.

When he first mentioned it to me, he did so with hesitation. “I think,” he told me, “I’m unhappy with my tux.”

So I asked: what was it that was wrong and what could we do to fix it?

He couldn’t quite pinpoint what it was that he didn’t like beyond a vague “it doesn’t fit right.” This was after two rounds of alterations and it basically came down to the fact that the Brooks Brothers’ tux was not as slimly cut as he would have wanted.

The how do we fix it boiled down to trying on more tuxes to see if he could find one he liked better.


Hugo Boss Stars/Glamour


Our first stop was Neiman Marcus. We would have gone to Nordstrom first, but we already knew from previous experience that their in-store tux selection left something to be desired. So Neimans is was, where Sparky was able to try on three different tuxes. Two were crazy expensive (I’m looking at you, Armani tuxedo), but the Hugo Boss was reasonably priced and cut in a more modern style (that means slim for those of you who aren’t up on men’s fashion terms).

After Neiman Marcus, we tried J Crew. Sparky owns several versions of the J Crew Ludlow suit and so we knew the tuxedo version would look great on him.


Ludlow Tuxedo


The Ludlow had the added benefit of being offered in an odd size (39R), which was great because Sparky is, apparently, in between sizes.

Sparky also ordered a tux from Gilt, since it was on sale and returnable.

This tux was by Martin Greenfield and I was initially surprised that Sparky liked it because it has a shawl collar (and Sparky is decidedly anti-shawl collar). Though when it comes down to it, a shawl collar tuxedo is quite different than a shawl collar sweater.



I also insisted that Sparky put on his own tux and get “groomed up.” So he put on his tux, suspenders, fancy shirt, cufflinks, shoes, and bow tie and modeled it for me.


I certainly hope he smiles more than this on our wedding day.


Apparently this is a thing, but I don’t really understand how this pose shows of a jacket (sleeve length maybe?)

Ultimately, Sparky decided on the Martin Greenfield tuxedo. Since it probably isn’t obvious from the photos, as soon as he put it on, he started grinning. I knew before he even put on the full deal that it made him happy. He was glowing. When we went into the lobby of our condo building to take pictures, he gave me a big smile and said, “This is what it’s supposed to feel like, right? It’s like your dress. I just don’t want to take it off!”

Anyone else with a super picky groom? Did anyone else ride the wave of tux/suit regret? Does anyone’s groom need a tuxedo in size 40R (because we have an extra!)?


Mrs. Campfire

Seattle, WA
Wedding Date:
September 2013
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  1. campfire Bee
    campfire 1045 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:44 pm

    @Miss Gondola: Thanks!
    @Krista: I definitely approve, too!

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    MikeTV, Guest @ 11:12 pm

    Good looking suit! If you don’t mind me asking, how tall is Sparky? I just ordered a Martin Greenfield tux from Gilt, and I wanted to compare. I’m 6’2″ and orded a 40L. Thanks!

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    MikeTV 1 posts, Wannabee @ 8:35 am

    Good looking tux! If you don’t mind me asking, how tall is Sparky? The reason being that I just ordered a Martin Greenfield tux from Gilt. I’m 6’2″, and ordered a 40L. Just wondering if I ordered the correct length. Thanks!

  4. campfire Bee
    campfire 1045 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:37 am

    @MikeTV: Sparky is 6’0″ and he ordered a 40R. All he needed to do was hem the pants!

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