I Feel Like I’m Being Punished for Having an Early 2013 Wedding

I have to gripe about something real quick. It’s just a stupid little email from a potential hair and makeup artist, but it seriously annoyed the crap out of me and I find myself thinking about it more than I should. This one vendor says she can’t do my hair and makeup trial before the start of the new year. She specifically said she cannot be flexible in booking my consultation. Really? Granted, she is being nice enough to offer to book me before the 1st of the year (even though it’s a huge exception), but she it appears that she is flat-out refusing to do my hair and makeup trial before the normal five-six weeks before the wedding. I mean, what if I were a January bride like Lyre or Gloves? Would she make an exception then, or are winter brides forced to have their trial mere days before their wedding?

This vendor’s email was just so annoying! She said things like,

“I understand you’re out-of-state,” but clearly she doesn’t understand. Christmas is going to be my time in Minnesota to get shit done, and flying back and forth in January and February is something I’m trying to limit because of weather and other wedding related tasks that will have to wait until then. I’ve talked about it before, but being in an LDR with my wedding means my schedule might be a bit different from other brides. For example, I have a bridal shower coming up in MN in October, yes that’s a tad on the early side, but it’s the best month for my North Dakota family to get to Minnesota to help host it. Then, I have my Hen Do (bachelorette party) in November—pretty early again, but that’s when Mr. Sword’s AMAZING friends are flying him back to Glasgow for his Stag Do and I wanted to do mine the same weekend so I could host all of my out-of-town girls at our apt. My Chicago shower will be in February to round out the festivities.

Plus, I’m nervous about using extensions for the first time, and I’d really like to have time (like more than a few weeks) to change my plans if I don’t like the way they turn out, but if I’m only in town for that trial and then the wedding, how would I have a second go at it?

I understand I’m booking things a bit ahead of the curve, but it helps me to stay calm (and Lord knows my friends and family prefer me to stay calm!!), and the comical thing is I am still in the researching part of the process. But this artist doesn’t seem to have any desire to try to convince me that she’ll be a great vendor, so I’m going to keep moving. Unfortunately, the other company I was seriously considering has similar timelines and strict rules about when the trial should take place as well, and since my event is so far in the future, they wouldn’t even quote me a price! Although, maybe that’s normal in the hair/makeup biz.

After hearing Mrs.Coyote’s hair and makeup nightmare, I’m even more certain that I want to go with someone I like and trust. I’ve sent out another inquiry so I will keep you all posted on how that goes. Clearly I’m in the thick of wedding planning because my panties got in a twist over one small email, but as someone who’s had years of bad skin, my wedding day makeup is very important to me.

I always pay for professional makeup when possible, like when I get my theatre headshots taken:

Sorry for the rant, hive, but thanks for listening, I feel so much better! Anyone else struggling with booking things in the early part of the year?


Mrs. Sword

Wedding Date:
March 2013
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    AT, Guest @ 9:56 am

    Bad vendor! Move on! Do not deal with vendors that make life difficult. They are supposed to make sure that you are taken care of properly.

    This vendor is not professional nor sensitive to your needs and pressures. There are lots of talented people out there! Never feel like everything is tied to working with so-and-so… Instead deal with the people who are professional and accommodating.

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    coyote 2051 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:07 am

    Yea this definitely leaves a bad taste in my mouth, but I might be biased when it comes to hair/makeup vendors. 🙂 Who CARES when your wedding is?! You’re an out-of-town bride and you’re paying her for a service. She should deff be more accommodating. I say keep looking! Good luck!!

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    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:38 am

    Definitely poor service, I’m glad you’ve decided to move on – I’ve never heard of such a thing. I’m getting married in May of 2013 and I started booking things in December ’11 and January of this year. If any of my vendors had given me crap about it, I’d have peaced them out. . .although they are doing brides a service, they are still getting PAID. I’m so sorry you even have to deal with the frustration, but it’s totally something you should be comfortable and happy with – good luck with the new vendor! <3

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    Amy, Guest @ 12:06 pm

    I think you should just keep moving. There are tons of hair and makeup people out there. I have been looking for one also and booking someone and my wedding in summer of 2013 and price is one of my factors so if they say they can’t book me or can’t tell me the price I move on. I understand prices change but if you are booking someone you are giving them work for that date when otherwise they may not have a bride that day/ won’t make money. That vendor sounds like she is hard to work with and you don’t need someone like that when planning your wedding. Any good makeup artist is booked so far out that they need to schedule things early and will understand that you are a Long distance bride and work with you. I would look at it this way you are paying them to do this and you deserve some type of consideration for how busy you are and why give your hard earned money to someone that seems to not have any consideration for your time.

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    Soontobemrslear 10 posts, Newbee @ 12:20 pm

    They are not being considerate to your situation…my wedding is april 2013, and i have had some interesting conversations with vendors let me tell you….but one thing should remain consistant with you and your process….customer service is always key….

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:22 pm

    My Makeup artist seemed perfect! I loved her makeup, she was well known but had one of the best prices so i didn’t hesitate booking her and paying the deposit! Fast forward a couple of months and I get a phone call from her saying she is now unable to do my wedding day look! It was the first thing that went wrong with our plans and I was devestated because all the other semi decent MUAs had been booked months prior! So MUAs can be a little tricky, but I am sure it will be okay in the end!

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    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:19 pm

    Thanks for all the love and support everyone!!! 🙂

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    Beezysbreezy 540 posts, Busy bee @ 9:32 pm

    I think those of us that like to plan things out – i.e. book early – are treated like we’re crazy! I tried to book the liquor vendor right after we booked the venue, and they told me we had to wait until closer to the wedding. Why, is there a reason you can’t keep a calendar for more than a year out?

    I say keep looking around at other vendors. If all the others say the same thing, maybe its just something everyone around there does.

    You can always ask them to do your makeup for a party or something and not say it’s your trial… Good luck!

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    Miss Ariel 83 posts, Worker bee @ 8:59 pm

    I wasn’t planning my wedding long distance, but I do live in Louisiana, and my family all lives in California so it made time lines a bit difficult. Our wedding was Labor Day weekend, but I had my shower in California in May. And since we weren’t able to get everyone together sooner, we wound up having the bachelorette party two nights before the wedding.

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