Trust Issues

Before ya’ll get to thinking that this post is going to be a really deep, philosophical look at my relationship with Mr. U, I’ll go ahead and let you know that my trust issues are of the superficial, hairstyling variety. As in, I don’t trust hairstylists.

I don’t know where this distrust began, but I’m convinced that hairstylists will tell you what you want to hear, regardless of how you actually look. Before any hairstylists get their knickers in a twist, I’ll go ahead and explain why I don’t trust hair people.

Example A: My mother allowed her hairdresser to HACK OFF ALL HER HAIR!!! The hairdresser said she looked fabulous. We just stared, slack-jawed and wide-eyed, too shocked to say a word.

Example B: I volunteered to be a hair show model for a renowned, Belgian hairstylist that was doing a demonstration here in Atlanta. I came out with a MULLET. A PURPLE MULLET!!!! It was hideous, but every last hairdresser in the place oohed and ahhed over my hair massacre like it was a work of art. Mr. Unicorn gently told me that it looked as awful as I suspected. Below is the photographic evidence, should you be daring enough to view it. And before you get on to me about the fugly dress, I’ll have you know that they MADE me wear that for the show.

Photo by Paul Mitchell Esani School.

Example C: One salon made me sign a WAIVER before doing my hair. I went ahead with the haircut, even though that was a total red flag. About five minutes into the haircut, my hairdresser sliced his hand open on thinning shears and bled all over me like it was going out of style. Not necessarily an example of a hairstylist lying about how I looked, but not exactly the best way to earn my trust either.

Needless to say, I’m a little nervous about getting my hair done for the wedding. I’ve been tossing around the idea of just straightening it myself and slapping the veil on, but everyone else seems to think I should step outta my comfort zone and get my hair professionally done. With much trepidation, I scheduled a hair trial at The Hair Artists, right across the street from our venue. The lady on the phone assured me that she had the perfect person for the job, and that all I had to do was show up with my veil.

I showed up to my trial fifteen minutes early with my grandma. It wasn’t long before a tiny blonde woman came bouncing up to introduce herself as my hairdresser, and I did my best to put aside my completely irrational fears. I whipped out my handy dandy phone to show her my “Wedding Hair” board on Pinterest, and she got to work right away.

Now, you may recall that I have crazy, two-tone hair at the moment thanks to a bout of temporary insanity. As it turns out, I am completely on trend with my ombre hairstyle—which my hairdresser refused to believe was entirely accidental—and the up-do I chose for the wedding is PERFECT for this kind of color treatment. Who knew?

Alas, I have LOTS of thick, wavy, unmanageable hair. The hairstylist did her best to wrestle it into submission, but I could tell she was getting frustrated.

Personal photo. Only for you, hive.

Once she was finished, this is what it looked like.

Personal photo. What it looks like with the veil.

Personal photo. This is what it looks like without the veil. The red braid looks really cool against the darker hair, no?

At first, I was thrilled with it. After I left, I wasn’t as thrilled.

For starters, you can totally see the rubber bands holding the braid together. There’s gotta be a way to make them less visible.

Personal photo. See the ugly bands?

I also feel that I need more volume on the top, or the whole thing will look flat and sad halfway through the wedding. As for the back, it looks like a rat’s nest.

Personal photo of the rat’s nest that is the back of my head.

What do you think, hive? Should I start panicking? Or do you think she’ll do a better job on the day of the wedding? Should I abandon my pretty up-do with the braid idea and just wear my hair straight?


Mrs. Unicorn

Atlanta, Georgia
Wedding Date:
September 2012
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    dancindiva 130 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:03 am

    I think that your hair show photo and dress look great, but it’s not a ready to wear look really so I get your panic over it! LOL

    I have the same hairstylist distrust. It developed over the years and exploded when I started wearing my hair in its naturally curly way rather than getting a relaxer. Now I am totally panicked over my wedding hair, and to make it worse, all 3 of my BMs have the exact same issue (and AMAZING, long, thick, gorgeous, curls)! We all religiously do our own hair for that reason. My solution is to take the risk for myself and have my hair styled but have a hair stylist show up on the day to do as needed “touch ups” on my BMs hair.

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    DesiMercedes 573 posts, Busy bee @ 10:31 am

    I am going to go with what some others said and suggest you go somewhere else. You are very lovely but the hairstyle is not wedding-worthy. Not neat or finished at all.

    I enjoy the updo with the wraparound braid but might I recommend you have your bangs incorporated into the braid. The bangs as is look like you’re trying to hide half of your pretty face and kind of takes away from the elegance of an updo.

    Also, the color is great but the ombre color doesn’t work for an updo. If you’re sticking with the ombre then try the hair down or if you are set on the updo, then have the color evened out.

    I love the veil!

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:29 pm

    I think I would’ve left if a salon made me sign a waiver (and I’ve been subject to a fair number of hair catastrophes).

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    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:43 pm

    Your hairstyle is very similar to what I want but I am wearing it down with the braid. Maybe suggest to the hairstylist that for the updo they do a simple chignong (or however you spell it) instead of a bun?

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    Asia, Guest @ 7:42 am

    I would find a different hairstylist. No one should EVER have to put elastic bands partway through a braid to make it hold up. As pretty as your hair is, your stylist just is not skilled enough. Have you considered going to a stylist who deals primarily with african hair textures? If your stylist feels put out by a few (very pretty!) waves, maybe someone with a bit more experience with textured hair (and braids, and updo’s) could help.

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    MsRobyn 52 posts, Worker bee @ 11:48 am

    I have no suggestions. I just want to agree with you. I hate hairdressers, all hairdressers, and everything they do to my hair. From when I was a bridesmaid when I was twelve and they made me sit in rollers for two hours for curls that fell out in ten minutes, to the first time I got my hair styled properly for my leaver’s ball and instead of the loose curls I wanted I got stiff, sprayed-to-death ringlets, to every.single.time I go for a haircut and say “I want to keep the length. Trim off the split ends and no more. No more than two inches. I like it long” and they take off six inches without fail, all the while telling me my hair is in crappy condition (which it isn’t) because I don’t have time to get it cut every six weeks (who the hell does?).

    Yeah, I’m doing my own hair. It’s actually a bit of a thing now. My mum and aunties and bridesmaid are going to get their hair done before the wedding and my cousin asked if I was coming and my mum just laughed.

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    scottishmrs 3213 posts, Sugar bee @ 8:29 pm

    I love the hair style but I agree that it’s not so professional in the back and could use some volume on the top. And those elastics have to go. I think you should maybe try there again or just go try at another place. Bring the original pics of the style you want as well as the pics of the trial you’ve done. Explain your concerns and see if they can do better.

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    CocoaBean 12 posts, Newbee @ 3:43 pm

    As a hairstylist, I’ve never seen anyone use any hair elastics right on top of the head. If she french braids it, and secures it with bobby pins hidden in the braid, it will look great, and hold while looking like it’s holding itself together. The mark of a good updo is to not see what’s holding it up. I would find a new one. Ask for the most senior stylist in the shop. It may cost more, but if you have trust issues with stylists (I get clients all the time that I have to persuade that I won’t hack their hair off.) it’s worth it to pay for someone with more experience.

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