Originally published on May 14, 2010
Mrs. Bunting nominates Mrs. Cola’s quick and easy post on writing your vows and used this template to write the vows for her own wedding.
Our vows are something that took Mr. Cola and me a while to decide on.
On one hand, I didn’t really want to do the more traditional vows, where we would just repeat the same thing our officiant said. I wanted something a little more personal and meaningful for us, especially since we pieced together the ceremony wording ourselves.
But on the other hand, Mr. Cola thought that writing our own vows would be a lot of work. And I couldn’t argue with that, because I agreed it would be. And then I read Miss Sewing’s post about vows, and she brought up the very good point that when a bride and groom both write their own vows, and don’t see them in advance, there’s a good chance they could end up being vastly different in length and/or tone.
So Mr. Cola and I came up with a compromise: Vow Libs!
We put together the beginnings of some sentences for our vows that we will both use, and we’ll each fill in the ends of the sentences with whatever we want. We also set the parameter that there will be at least 3 adjectives/actions/promises per line, and an additional sentence can be added after any of the lines if we just can’t express our loving thought in one sentence.
This way, we can keep our vows a surprise until our wedding day, but they will be similar in feel and length. We’re both fans of short and sweet, so this works perfectly for us!
Here are the Vow Libs we will be using:
Mr. Cola/Miss Cola, ________________________
You are __________________________________
Thank you for _____________________________
Today I promise ___________________________
I will ____________________________________
I vow to _________________________________
And I promise to __________________________
I made some cards with our Vow Libs on them, and lines to fill in the blanks, that we will each fill out with our final drafts a few days before the wedding, and give to our officiant to hold in his booklet with the ceremony text (we will also give a back up copy to one of the groomsmen to hold, just in case the originals get lost).
Now, as for what I’m going to write on my card, I don’t really know yet. I’m giving myself until a week before the wedding to think about it, after all, these are going to be some serious and deep Mad Libs to fill in the blanks for!
What are you and your FI doing for your wedding vows?