”˜I Do’ and That’s It?

We’re getting down to crunch time! The marriage license application has been sent, the final payment has been made, the home party invites have been mailed, and now we wait. In 3 weeks, we’ll be in paradise!

Last week, I received an email from the hotel’s wedding department with our wedding day itinerary. Being left in the dark about the big day until now hasn’t really bothered me except for when people asked me how the planning is going. Uh, we’re done. We have been for a while. We’ve left most of the actual planning in the hands of the hotel”¦ just the way we wanted it.

So when I read the wedding day plan”¦

  • 5:00: Groom comes to lobby for 1st set of pictures
  • 5:15: Bride escorted from her room for pictures in lobby
  • 5:30: Ceremony begins. Photographer takes pics during and after ceremony at wedding site
  • 6:30: Ceremony and pictures conclude

”¦ I thought it was perfectly simple and sweet. Normally, a reception immediately following the ceremony is expected but we didn’t want to do the expected, we wanted to do things our way and the island way—laid back and low stress. I’m starting to think we’re already on ”˜island time’! We don’t have anything planned after the ceremony and the home party has taken on a life of it’s own. We both agree, that is our ‘something after the wedding’, it’s just going to happen a month later.

Someone actually said to me, “Isn’t that going to be kind of anti-climactic for you? ”˜I do’, then you’re done?”

Well, no”¦ the ”˜I do’ part is our climax! Afterwards, we envision opening a bottle of champagne, doing a toast with our friends and families, then jumping in the pool!



The simple fact is that our number one goal is to promise to love and honor each other for the rest of our lives with our families and friends sharing in the joy that is our marriage. Our number 2 goal is to relax and enjoy the vacation. Our reception is to follow”¦ one month later.

My best advice is if you are planning to go against the grain, do it. It’s your day and no one should be allowed to dictate your wedding day but you and your fiance.

Have you/did you deal with any negative feedback regarding your planning of your day?


Mrs. Nachos

Chicago/St. Thomas
Wedding Date:
April 2010
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    AmberWaves 326 posts, Helper bee @ 4:04 pm

    I’m completely on your wave length and that is why I’m having a DW too. I haven’t gotten too much negative feedback except for the fact that people are bummed they can’t come.

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    msgiraffe 4248 posts, Honey bee @ 9:15 pm

    I think it sounds nice 🙂

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 10:43 pm

    haha i think our most ‘anti climatic’ part was that the day zoomed by so quickly!!

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    thebriz 448 posts, Helper bee @ 11:52 am

    We’ve kept the planning to ourselves, especially since we are footing the bill. Frankly, we could care less if someone has a negative comment; not everyone will like everything – at the end of the day, it’s our wedding so who cares. What I found interesting with your timeline is that it’s pretty tight; I’d add at least another 5-10 min before the ceremony for pictures. Even with a small to non-existent party, 15 minutes seems a bit small for a photographer to get in a lot of good, varied shots.

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    Lo 205 posts, Helper bee @ 3:08 pm

    Unfortunately my mom has already started with the negative comments because she already has her mind made up about what my wedding should be like…. and we’ve only been officially engaged for less than a week!

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    argyle 2519 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:13 am

    I’m a firm believer in doing what is right for you – regardless of what the industry and trends say.

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    jbell157 29 posts, Newbee @ 10:09 pm

    I’m so excited that you got to blog about your wedding! I’m getting married on St. John in 30 days! When we first started planning I really wanted my families opinion on what they wanted and what they thought would be ok financially wise. They all said just run away and come back and we’ll have a party, that way you won’t have to stress out and we’ll pay for it all. So of course we were like ok! Shortly after we planned everything and really decided to have our wedding on St. John we started getting negative feedback. Needless to say we were confused. They said they meant for us to run away but they would still be able to come…? How does that make sense. So we told them that it was about me and my fi and this is what we wanted. Some of them got over it and some still have negative feelings about it. But with the promise of a nice party after we get back they got over it. Anyways, we are so psyched and I think our day will have everything we need and more…because it will be about me and him and no one else, which is what its about!
    Thanks for sharing your journey, even though I just found it, its so cool to read about someone who has gone through something very similar! Congratulations!

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