We Start Today: The Way I Am

I know I already said the photos in this post were my absolute favorite from our wedding, but I have to say these pictures are a close second. We chose “The Way I Am” by Ingrid Michelson for our first dance as husband and wife. I have always loved this song because so many of the lyrics make me think of inside jokes between Mr. Castle and me. For example the line, “Sew on patches to all you tear” reminds me of how I used to tease Mr. Castle before we began dating. He had these jeans with huge holes in both knees, like ridiculously huge. I still don’t understand how he could actually wear them—they were that bad. I used to say, “You know I can sew those up for you, or better yet I can put a patch on them. Maybe a big peace sign or a groovy flower?” It was my dorky way of flirting with him…

Anyway, this song is so simple and sweet, and I knew I wanted to somehow use it on our wedding day. I wasn’t sure exactly how we would use it until one day Mr. Castle suggested it as our first-dance song. I loved the idea. We wanted our first-dance song to be something with a happier tone, not too sappy, and “The Way I Am” totally fit the bill. If only I had thought of it first! Since I love this song so much I spent most of our first dance singing along. Afterward I thought, “Oh, that’s probably not going to look very attractive in pictures…oops.” Well, I couldn’t have been more wrong. Once again our amazing photographers captured out first dance beautifully. You can’t even tell I was singing along!

It was definitely a magical moment, not at all awkward like I had feared. Another great thing about our song choice was that it was short! It’s a little over two minutes long, which was the perfect amount of time for us.

“The Way I Am” {Press play to listen}

Photography by Palos Studio


If you were falling, then I would catch you…


You need a light, I’d find a match.


‘Cause I love the way you say good morning.


And you take me the way I am.


If you are chilly, here take my sweater.


Your head is aching, I’ll make it better.


‘Cause I love the way you call me baby.


And you take me the way I am.”

Then our magical moment became even more magical as bubbles came down on us from above.


I’d buy you Rogaine when you start losing all your hair…


Sew on patches to all you tear.


‘Cause I love you more than I could ever promise.


And you take me the way I am.


You take me the way I am.


You take me the way I am.”


As the song began to wind down we started hearing some rattling from our guests. They started shaking their Tic Tacs, which said on the back, “Shake these mints for marital bliss and keep on shaking until they kiss.”


So we obliged.


You can see some of our guests shaking their Tic Tacs in the back.

When our first dance ended we headed to our sweetheart table and got ready for some toasts!

What did you use for your first-dance song? Who ultimately chose it, you or your SO?


Miss a recap? Check it out below!


Mrs. Castle

NYC/Southern California
Wedding Date:
April 2012
DIY Pocketfolds
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  1. Member
    hma812 368 posts, Helper bee @ 3:47 pm

    This was one of the 4 song options I gave my fh! I thought I was being original. Love the song and I love your tic tacs!

  2. mstoadstool Bee
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:16 pm

    Beautiful song, I love the last pictures with your guests and the lights in the back.

  3. Member
    Red Poppy 31 posts, Newbee @ 5:02 pm

    Love these photos, and that was our first dance song too!

  4. graywolf Bee
    graywolf 725 posts, Busy bee @ 5:51 pm

    the lighting was amazing for your dance!

  5. Member
    ecjohnson 157 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:50 pm

    these photos are so awesome!!!

  6. sword Bee
    sword 1029 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:26 pm

    your photographers are amazing! Love the bubbles and how adorable you two look! 🙂

  7. Member
    jacofblues 1468 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:54 am

    Awww your photographers are so amazingly awesome! The bubbles are the perfect touch! Such a sweet first dance!

  8. Member
    stephk527 987 posts, Busy bee @ 10:33 am

    TEARS EVERYWHERE. Your photographers are out of this damn ass world. These pictures are so simplistically beautiful and really do capture the love and magic. I would stare at them all day every day if I were you. 😉

  9. bracelet Bee
    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 10:35 pm

    Awww. You look like you’re enjoying your dance so much!

  10. msfox Bee
    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:17 am

    You guys are so sweet – and that song is perfect. The spotlight on you two makes for some fabulous pictures, for sure!

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