A Kid-Friendly Wedding

Flower girls and ring bearers are adorable. There’s no denying it. Not only do they provide a cuteness factor to the wedding, they also create perfect photo opportunities.


Image via Lover.ly / Photo by John Schnack


Image via Lover.ly / Photo by J. Shipley Photography

Although we love kids, and I even love the look of kids in weddings, having a flower girl or ring bearer was not for us. The wedding participants are entirely family members, with the exception of the officiant, who is a family friend. If any of our siblings had kids, we wouldn’t hesitate to include them. However, Mr. Lemur has just one married brother and neither of us have nieces or nephews. We decided not to include a non-family member in this role and to simply not have a flower girl or ring bearer.

When it comes to kids at the wedding, however, we’re very open. I think the wedding lends itself to being a family affair. Both of us are very family-oriented and are friends with a number of families from our churches and communities. Also, we’re getting married in a simple lodge and a casual setting. It’s a morning wedding with a brunch, which makes it easier for kids to attend than an evening or late wedding.

We indicated kids were invited by including their names on the invitation and we’ve made it clear to families that we know that we’d love to have their kids there on the big day. I know this may cause some problems…kids crying during the ceremony or a less than immaculate reception. That’s OK. If we were getting married in a formal cathedral I might be more uptight about it, but I’m willing to sacrifice some things to have the families we love celebrating with us.

I want to have something for the kids to do while they’re at the wedding, however. It’s not necessarily a long reception, but I have no doubt they’ll get bored. Remember the Scrabble tiles I talked about? I’ve thought about spreading some of them out on the tables, or on one table just for the kids. I’ve also bought crayons and started working on coloring pages for the kids. Maybe something like this?


Image via Disney Stationary

I loved Cinderella when I was a little girl, and I could include some other Disney princess wedding pages for the girls, and maybe something a little more masculine for the boys who don’t want to color Ariel and Belle!

What else could I include to keep the kids occupied? I know a lot of brides have included bags for the kids…what did you put in them? I want to make this fun for them!


Mrs. Lemur

Greenville, South Carolina
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    gotsol 46 posts, Newbee @ 11:04 pm

    Wow you are much more tolerant than me about kids.

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 10:02 am

    @Mrs. Toadstool: That does sound super fun! I remember reading about Mrs. Castle’s gorgeous wedding and thinking her kids’ bags looked so cute 🙂

    @futureMFG: If I do kids bags I’m definitely going to want a few fun things to put in there! Thanks for the suggestion!

    @DaniLyn: I’m really hoping so! I feel like parents often give their (slightly older) kids their phones to occupy themselves. I would like them to be able to run around and take pictures with it 🙂

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    courtney3778 32 posts, Newbee @ 10:48 am

    we did kids bags for ours…we put in a pencil,sharpener, little frisbee, crayons, a pop thing that you press down the middle and it pops up a yoyo and one of those games that is a maze with a small ball in it…..we printed off all kinds of coloring pages and different activities like color by number, word finds, crossword puzzles and find the object pages and we are going to tie them together with twine…..I cant wait to see their faces when they get them….we are setting them on a table for them to get when they come in the door….thanks for the camera ideas….would love to see the wedding through the eyes of a child

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