The Buffalo Wedding: How We Didn’t Rehearse

I’m going to take a shot in the dark and assume this is more common than you may think. But hey, I also could be very very wrong. We had every intention of having a full-blown wedding rehearsal. We had never even fully done our handfasting ceremony in its entirety, nor had anyone else been to the ceremony site to see where everything would take place. A rehearsal was definitely a must. But then something funny happened: people were late, I was tired, all of a sudden people started showing up for the rehearsal dinner, and then somehow the actual rehearsal seemed less and less important. In fact, it seemed unnecessary. I’ll let you in on a little secret: by the time we had arrived at the venue the day before, I had given up on being a neurotic, stressed-out bride, and had just come to the conclusion that the best thing for me to do was just go with the flow. (I may or may not have revoked this opinion the next morning during setup, but that’s a story for another post.)

Since rehearsing the actual wedding ceremony had been scrapped, we moved on to bigger and better things: rehearsing the RECEPTION. Originally, we had a bit of trouble deciding how we wanted to go about our rehearsal dinner, mainly because of the seclusion of our venue. But in the end we decided on a laid-back BBQ with our immediate family, wedding party, and guests who were already on the mountain the night before. I let Mr. B pick out the food, and I have to admit he did an excellent job. He opted for us to have carne asada tacos, Coronas, margaritas, and even decided to man the grill! I know a lot of you bees would not want your grooms to be “working” at your rehearsal dinner, but I know that manning the grill with his groomsmen was one of Mr. B’s favorite parts of the night!


BM N, GM R & B, and Mr. B manning the grill

In addition to Mr. B and the groomsmen at the grill, most of our wedding party had helped us set up the multi-purpose room for the event that day, and MOH S was in charge of warming the tortillas. (Have I mentioned we have AWESOME friends?)


Me and BM J


MOH S warming the tortillas

I will say I got a little carried away with the salsa and guacamole. I went to the Mexican market by our house to stock up, and somehow managed to spend over $100 on various pre-made salsas, guacamole, and hot carrots. SERIOUSLY. So if the older ladies in line are giving you the “are you really buying that much” look, they’re probably right…I think we ate about half of it. MAYBE.

We had a great time spending extra time with our closest friends and family, especially those from out of town. After all the family had cleared out, the guys got to do what they had been waiting patiently to do all night: play beer pong. Under normal circumstances, I probably would have joined them. But due to Baby Buffalo, not only was I not drinking but I was extra tired, so I retired to the main house to watch Sleepless in Seattle and finish some last-minute projects before heading to bed. Even though I missed most of their fun, here are my favorite shots from the night just because:


GM R showing off his awesome wrist tape


BM N and Mr. B even sit alike!

Despite our lack of actual preparation for the most important part of our big day, I consider our rehearsal dinner a success. It proves that just like a wedding, your rehearsal can be anything you want it to be. And I definitely learned about just going with the flow that day. (Seriously, that is NOT something that I am good at.)

Did you have a traditional rehearsal and rehearsal dinner? Or did you do things a little differently and still have everything turn out perfectly?

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Mrs. Buffalo

San Diego, CA
Wedding Date:
September 2012
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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:16 pm

    what a fun and relaxing rehearsal dinner! I think spending time with your friends and family is way more important than trying to rehearse.

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    mkelove 666 posts, Busy bee @ 5:54 pm

    I second Miss Panada, spending time with family and friends is important. Can’t wait for more recaps!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:15 pm

    This sounds way better than rehearsing 🙂

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    Almost Mrs.P 2056 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:20 pm

    This sounds awesome! Tacos are my FI’s idea of a good time, too.

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    Elizabeth Barone, Guest @ 8:51 pm

    I’m getting married in August, and I don’t think we’re going to have a rehearsal dinner. I like the idea of having a party, though! I may have to steal it. 😀

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    jmarvellous 550 posts, Busy bee @ 6:29 am

    We already know we’re not going to rehearse (we’ll go over the ceremony with our officiant, but there’s no wedding party or anything!), but we wanted to hang out with our guests. We’re just calling it a “welcome dinner” and skipping any pretense! Sounds like yours was right along the lines of what we want ours to be!

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    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 7:49 am

    Um, this sounds amazing. Totally fun!

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    carrie.lynch.3111 7 posts, Newbee @ 8:19 am

    As a destination wedding Photographer based out of Edmonton Alberta, we always ask the bride and groom to invite us to their rehearsal, whether the venue is local or at a destination spot; it gives us a chance to view where we can get the best shots, from what angles and to get a look at the lighting situation (will we need to bring more lighting along?), so we don’t miss a thing!
    Sometimes we are able to offer valuable info to the vendor (i.e. opening a skylight overhead for more pretty and natural light), or if something needs to be taken care of beforehand.
    That said, some people are big planners, and others just want the day to flow as it does. The effort you put in is what you will get in the end….

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 821 posts, Busy bee @ 3:22 pm

    We didn’t rehearse our ceremony either. Your dinner with family and friends sounds like a great way to spend the night before your wedding. I was a stressed out bundle of mush!

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