I feel kinda funny telling my friends what they should wear. Who am I to tell them to buy a $150(ish) dress they might (probably not) wear again? If my bridesmaids want to all wear the same dress, same color, that’s fine by me, but I want them to be comfortable in what they wear to my wedding.
A comfortable bridesmaid is a happy bridesmaid, and a happy bridesmaid is a happy bride! (I know, how self-serving of me.)
Luckily, mismatched bridesmaids dresses are becoming a popular way to inject originality into your wedding day!
This first pic (above) is one of my favorites – everyone’s in a shade of green or blue, and some of them are wearing patterned dresses! It’s all about the effect on the whole. If you stick to just one color, that color might become overpowering. A spectrum of one or two colors, when put together, results in a wonderfully rich palette! Plus, I love how this means that you & the ‘maids will look the best when you’re together as a group!
I love how these different shades of olive green look together (above)! I guess when you have Rachel Bilson as your MOH, the fashion’s a no-brainer!
Of course, there are a few guidelines I’lld follow to make sure our “mixed” dresses also “match”.
- They’ll wear the same length dress. Whether it’s short, long, tea-length – whatever – the length of the dress dictates the formality.
- We won’t stray too far from a simple color palette. I basically have two colors in my palette – rustic red poppy and faded lavender. Since we’re getting married outdoors, espresso is a natural option for a “base” color. I’m telling my girls that they should try to find a dress that’s in the spectrum between these three warm colors. *Bonus! Send your girls paint chips from the hardware store! This makes the color-selection a no-brainer.
- We don’t need to match necklines. This will come as a relief to my bustier gal-pals!
- We don’t need to match fabric type.
- It’s okay to mix florals with solids with patterns. In the end, it will look purposefully unmatchy-matchy!
- Though not necessary, matching shoes can bring the entire ensemble together! I’m not asking my ‘maids to do this, though.
I’m giving my bridesmaids [near] complete freedom to choose a dress. I am, however, providing them with a suggestion for what I think is a pretty dress, but I’m stressing that they don’t have to buy it. If they end up wearing a dress they already own, more power to them! Whatever makes them happy makes me happy.
Then again, for all I know, they might all show up matching in the same exact dress :).
How do you feel about letting your bridesmaids choose their own dress? Do you have any more suggestions to make unmatched dresses look more matchy?