Mr. Bee wanted to call my mom last week to wish her a happy mother’s day. But before he called, he asked me, “What should I call her? Mom? Mrs. ***?”
“Just don’t say anything at all,” I replied. This is the trick I use with Mr. Bee’s parents. It’s easy since we don’t see them often because they live abroad. But I know I can’t do that forever.
I don’t even call my parents “mom” and “dad.” I call them umma and appa – Korean for mom and dad. So I think it would be strange for my parents to suddenly be called mom or dad by Mr. Bee. In Korean culture every family member has a title – including in-laws so there is no debate about what to call them. Maybe Mr. Bee should call them by their Korean titles? (Mr. Bee is not Korean btw.)
Hmmm… I’ll have to ask my mom and dad about this.
Mr. Bee’s parents are used to being called “mom” and “dad” on the other hand, so I think it’d be only logical for me to call them that. It’s just so weird though! I don’t know if I can ever get used to it.
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