My First Full-Blown Meltdown

My first, and hopefully only meltdown.

For the first time this weekend I really regretted deciding to have a destination wedding. I realize that I have somewhat touched on this subject before, but I am writing this to be a completely open book. So far the planning process has been really easy and stress-free, but as the wedding gets closer, the real stuff is kicking in.

My aunt (the one whose veil I am using) has rheumatoid arthritis and has had some complications due to the disease lately. She has gotten numerous tests done, but they can’t figure out exactly what is wrong with her. She is so sad and disappointed that she will miss the wedding and I am so sad and disappointed that she wont be there. I completely understand why she can’t come, as no one likes to travel internationally when they aren’t feeling well. At the same time, I started regretting our decision to have a destination wedding.

On the other end of things, one of my bridesmaids dropped out of the wedding.

Yep, two weeks before the wedding she told me she won’t be coming after all. Although I was never fully convinced she was coming, it still sucks to know she won’t be there for sure.

Things have gotten better since hearing this disappointing news and my parents have reminded me that our wedding will be full of love no matter who is there. As we get closer I am getting really excited to be on the island and not have to think about anything for a while. Hopefully when I return I can come back and tell y’all that our wedding was amazing and I didn’t regret a thing. For now though, I have mixed feelings.

Have any of you had a destination wedding you regretted?


Mrs. Petit Four

San Antonio/Isla Mujeres
Wedding Date:
March 2012
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  1. woodpecker Bee
    woodpecker 270 posts, Helper bee @ 2:54 pm

    Hugs! Your wedding WILL be amazing, and you will enjoy it. And then, when it’s over, you will get to relive all the amazing details when you show pictures and videos to your aunt 🙂

  2. petitfour Bee
    petitfour 695 posts, Busy bee @ 4:47 pm

    @Mrs. Ostrich: Yes, I do believe a glass of wine is in order 🙂
    @paw: Very, very true. That’s a good point.@heather5743: We almost have the same date! Mine is the 13th (Random tuesday 🙂

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    maggierose 632 posts, Busy bee @ 6:23 pm

    I TOTALLY understand you, and am in the same boat. We are having a DW in DR and I found out a few weeks ago my sister and brother-in-law have decided not to bring my four year old niece, who was supposed to be my flower girl. I had been dreaming about having her as my flower girl since the day she was born! I am really sad that when I look back on pictures of my special day, she won’t be in any of them – I love her like my own daughter so it breaks my heart.

    To top it off, my Maid of Honor also told me recently that she won’t be able to afford to come to the wedding. Even though she has known for almost a year and a half when it was and was excited about it from the get go. I am so mad and upset that people had so much time to plan and then just back out. Why not tell me at the beginning, I can’t be your MOH, or she can’t be your flower girl, then get my hopes up for a year and a half.

    I also had another close friend tell me she couldn’t afford to make it – and in the same e-mail tell me she was planning a trip to Bali because it was cheaper and she was ‘so upset’ about not being able to make my wedding so this side trip was to console herself.

    Sorry for the rant! I don’t regret our decision in the end. My FI has a lot of family in the DR so it made sense to do it there, for them. In the end, this wedding has made me realize who my real friends are and also taught me to just suck it up and it’s one day of our lives and the people that can be there we will have a blast with and those who can’t, it sucks, but hey, that’s life.

    Good luck with everything..

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    JamJamAK 3 posts, Wannabee @ 8:00 pm

    It’s all a matter of what your priorities are. If having a beautiful wedding in an exotic location was your priority, then you have nothing to regret.

  5. porcupine Bee
    porcupine 633 posts, Busy bee @ 6:47 am

    Ugh, weddings bring out a lot of suck. But, when it comes to the day, all that will be washed away. Sometimes I’m like BUH, I should have just done it in NY. I am definitely having my “I don’t want to do this anymoreeee (the wedding, not the marriage)” moments as it gets closer and more stressful. You will make it through! It will be amazing. All that matters is the two of you make it there. 😉

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