The Inevitable Newlywed “15”

So remember all that hard work I put into ensuring I a) fit into my wedding dress with room to spare and b) had killer arms for the wedding photos? After nine months of meticulous calorie counting (portion control was key since there was no way I was giving up carbs, sweets, and wine) and a few months of P90X, I had the wedding body I always dreamed of having.

And then, leftover wedding cake and cupcakes happened. And the summertime happened. With the wedding over and my goal achieved, I totally fell off the “staying fit” wagon.

That about sums it up. / Photo via Some E-Cards

It’s the curse of the inevitable Newlywed 15! OK, not so much a curse, but in my case it was more about not having a specific goal after the wedding and therefore losing the motivation to maintain a healthy lifestyle. And the honeymoon didn’t help—I probably gained about five pounds just on that trip alone (granted, we were gone for almost four weeks, but still!).

While I kept trying to keep some semblance of a workout schedule afterward (I must have started and stopped P90X three times this summer), it was very difficult to have the motivation to do such a killer workout six times a week. And in terms of food, I would say the first two months after the wedding is when I gained the most weight as I was sooo over counting calories at that point. BIG mistake.

When I started having difficulty comfortably fitting into my favorite pair of jeans, I knew that I had to once again make a change. The thing is, we’ve been eating much healthier again these past few months—which is actually not that difficult anymore since I’ve really become passionate about cooking over the past year. Plus, we are living on a budget these days after the momentous (and hella expensive) year we’ve had, which means less eating out.

So with the healthy meals under control but the weight still not coming off, I know that I’ve got to retrain my brain to not overeat, control my portions, and get into some kind of workout routine again. Since Mr. M and I have pretty busy schedules these days, we’re trying a new Beachbody workout called T25 (by the same guy who created Insanity). It’s a super intense five times a week program, but each workout is only 25 minutes. We just started yesterday and, while it’s really tough, it felt good to finally get moving again. Plus in the past, I usually preferred to work out solo, but it was actually fun working out with the mister. Now there is NO excuse for not being able to find a mere 25 minutes a few days a week to work out. It’s a 10-week program, so we’ll try to stick with it!

For me, it’s not about being super skinny, but it’s really about staying healthy. I’m not overweight so I don’t want to obsess or be too hard on myself. But now that I’m getting older and my once speedy metabolism feels like it’s sputtered to a halt, I want to instill good eating and exercise habits for myself now so I can continue to live a long, happy, and healthy life. I know it’s cliche to say, but it really should be a lifestyle change at this point. Plus, I want to always look damn good in a bathing suit. 🙂

Anyone else dealing with the Newlywed 15? Any tips on how to stay motivated and continue to maintain healthy habits?


Mrs. Mongoose

New Haven, CT
Wedding Date:
May 2013
Putting My Best Face Forward
Classifieds: December 17, 2013
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    Heather, Guest @ 5:43 am

    Same happened to me! I gained 10lbs even though I kept up my 6 days a week of cardio/weight training-my eating got out of hand. I got pretty depressed after the wedding. Had moved away from my family and didn’t realize what a HUGE change marriage would make on my life. Up until the day after the wedding, I thought it would be all romance and flowers. It’s not. Marriage is wonderful but stressful and life-changing at the same time. Well I would get up at night and eat like my life depended on it.

    Now, after a year of marriage, I’ve gotten my weight back down and am focusing on building muscle now instead of being skinny. I’m much happier this way since being ‘skinny’ is not a way my body can be naturally be. I also think a marriage gets better over time. Our first year has been insane but we are more in love now even.
    The awesome thing though is that my husband met me (and pursued me AND loved me) even when I was overweight. When I was skinny and now, when I’m somewhere in the middle. He never even noticed I was a chubster! 😀

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:27 am

    @Danielle johnson: “Get it right, keep it tight”–stealing this motto!

    @Selena: That’s a fantastic idea. I’m usually a solo runner (haven’t done a race since I used to be in track & field in grade school) but it seems like a good idea to at least sign up for one race with friends and see if I like it. Thanks for the tip!

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    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 10:30 am

    @Donita: You are a smart lady. Some food is just so incredibly delicious and makes you forget you should just be eating for fuel (and moderated enjoyment from time to time).

    @Heather: You clearly married an amazing guy! It’s funny how we notice all these things we think are imperfections about ourselves, and our guys don’t even notice half the time. Probably means we stress a bit too much about it sometimes 🙂

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    Heather, Guest @ 11:51 am

    @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: @Mrs. Mongoose: I completely think we’re too hard on ourselves. I don’t think our men notice or care about being a bit chubby unless it starts interfering with our health.

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    MissesAwesome 771 posts, Busy bee @ 6:14 pm

    My wedding was two months ago. Right after, we took a minimoon, where we controlled ourselves fairly well and also did tons of walking everyday, so things were good … Until Halloween, and then Thanksgiving, and then Christmas! Ha haa!

    Needless to say, it’s been a really rough past two months diet- and exercise-wise. Mr. Awesome and I both worked really hard to lose weight for our Big Day, but now we’re both unfortunately definitely noticing a difference in how our clothes fit and how much energy we have. 🙁

    He and I are pretty busy and when we finally have free time, we’d rather snuggle and relax than exercise. However, I made it very clear early on that I did not want us to be the “typical fat married couple”. You know the ones. We all have one or two couples like them for friends …

    I guess a New Year Resolution (that we must keep) is in order! 😛

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