Wedding Party Rules

I have two really amazing sisters—we’re only a year and a half apart, each. Here’s a picture of us:


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Oh wait, this picture is from Halloween over 17 years ago! Apparently, I was a bride and my two sisters were my bridesmaids—that’s Sister E on the left and Sister A on the right. I love our bouquets and hair bows, but clearly the best part is the turtleneck underneath my frilly dress. Halloween in Wisconsin is cold!

I tried to find some more recent pictures of us, but somehow all the pictures of us either involve hiking or running. For real, I have dozens of pictures of us in the Blue Ridge Mountains, doing 5Ks, off on training runs, etc., but nothing formal. Here’s one shot I found from Christmas a few years ago. Sister A (the youngest) is the tallest on the left and Sister E is on the right. Oh, and that’s my little brother creeping in the background. Classic.


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This is my favorite picture of us, taken this Christmas while running in Minneapolis. Bonus points if you can recognize where this picture was taken!


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Why yes, we do like to rock matching neon jackets, especially when running on busy roads or at night. Safety first!

Anyway, the point of this post is to say that obviously I was always going to include my two sisters in my bridal party. Beyond that, though, I wasn’t sure. I always wanted a small bridal party, but Mr. Lemur has two sisters and I have several close friends…and to be honest, the numbers just started to add up.

I struggled with this for awhile. But you know what? There are no “wedding party rules.” You don’t have to include every best friend you’ve had since kindergarten, although what’s really awesome is that if you want to include twenty girls, heck, go for it!

What worked for me is to just invite my two sisters to stand up with me as I commit to Mr. Lemur for life. Mr. Lemur will have his two brothers standing up on his side. So yes, it’s “even,” but more importantly, it’s comfortable and right for us. We’re including our other family members and friends in other ways in the ceremony and reception, and I couldn’t be more excited!

How did you choose your bridal party? Did you go the “traditional” even route? Have sixteen girls stand up with you? Have guys stand up on the bride’s side or girls on the groom’s side? I want to hear about it!


Mrs. Lemur

Greenville, South Carolina
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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  1. mslemur Bee
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 12:20 pm

    @Mrs. Treasure: I really love the idea of having my friends come get ready with me. I have no doubt that’s how it will work out—for sure Mr. Lemur’s sisters will be there and a few of my friends are coming to help with hair/makeup/set-up too!

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    Elaine, Guest @ 4:09 pm

    I had 3 BM and 3 GM in my wedding…very traditional. But nowadays anything goes!

  3. mspony Bee
    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 5:23 pm

    You and your sisters are so cute! I think it’s perfect to have your sisters standing by you, just like they always have.

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    plotboxe 34 posts, Newbee @ 10:03 pm

    my brother and his brother!Super traditional.

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    chris.trib.37 7 posts, Newbee @ 2:31 am

    Wow, you could be tripplets

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    staceykate 54 posts, Worker bee @ 6:31 am

    We have 7 bridesmaids (my sister, FSIL, 4 college friends, and one ex-roommate… I actually found her as a roommate from Craigslist, so that is a running joke between us! haha) and my fiance has 7 groomsmen (his brother, 5 college buddies, and one work buddy). I was initially going to add one more childhood friend, but she lives in Australia and is in the middle of her Master’s degree and won’t be able to make it to the wedding anyway. I think my fiance would probably have had 6 groomsmen, but he added one more to make the numbers even. I wouldn’t have minded if it was uneven! We also have my son as ring bearer. 🙂

    Is anyone having a “house party” (e.g. ushers/usherettes/readers)? We were thinking about doing that too but it just seemed like way too many people to manage!! Just wondering if that was a common thing or maybe just in Texas? My friend who recently got married had 5 bridesmaids, but then she also had a “bling bearer” (adult female ring bearer, the groom’s sister) and 3 female house party members, plus I’m not sure how many ushers etc.

  7. mslemur Bee
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 7:45 am

    @chris.trib.37: We’ve totally gotten that before! More when we were younger. And at school (we all go to the same university) we still get mistaken for each other. Although now no one has any idea who is older—especially since both my sisters are taller than me!

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    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 7:49 am

    @staceykate: Hmm I’m not sure what you mean by house party—maybe that’s just a Texas thing? I’m doing something similar to what you mean by house party I think though. My brother and my sister’s boyfriend are ushering, my two future sister-in-laws are playing strings (they’re AMAZING!), and two of my friends are helping set-up. I’m including all of them in the rehearsal dinner, gifts, morning of getting ready, etc. Does that make sense?

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    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:40 am

    I think it’s amazing you are so close and you git to include them.
    The background of that last pictures is breathtaking.

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    spanglbee 77 posts, Worker bee @ 5:39 pm

    We are having 5 people stand up with each of us. On my side, I have my 2 sisters, my 2 best friends, and my little 13 year old brother as a bridesman. Then my FH has his 4 best friends and his brother in his party 🙂 ages range 13-33

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