A Pale Bride

On a normal day I am pretty pale. I’m a redhead and I have very fair skin. I’ve always sort of hated being pale. Over the years I have definitely been suckered into the tanning craze. Unlike some redheads, I do indeed get tan. But, before I get tan, I get extremely red. For many redheads the red fades back into white, but if I stick to it I do indeed get brown.


The year of the tan, my junior year of college

I’m ashamed to admit that for about three years in college I ignored all the warnings and went tanning every now and again. I went to college on Long Island—a school made up of mostly New Yorkers and New Jersey kids. Tan is IN in that neck of my woods. Jersey Shore is no lie.

And yes, I have seen shades of orange that go beyond anything Snookie and Pauly D. have been. My friends and I would always buy a three month package right before spring breaks and sorority formals. No one dared to be pale in the copious amount of pictures we would take. No one thought anything of it. At the time it was pretty cheap and everyone looks “healthier” with a tan. For a few years I wouldn’t get into a dress without one.


Tanning membership + a week in Acapulco

Looking back now I realize I was an idiot. We all know that there is nothing worse than fake and bake. But, like smoking and eating Twinkies, sometimes people just ignore the blatant danger because we inherently think “oh, XYZ won’t happen to me, and if it does I’ll worry about it then.” I just can’t bring myself to lie under a tanning bed anymore knowing what I know about the risks involved. I also can’t bring myself to spray tan. Although I can’t knock it, because I’ve never tried a professional one, I am pretty scared of looking like Lindsay Lohan on a bad day. Because I am naturally pale self-tanning products tend to look a little too orange on me. I also don’t want to have to even *think* about rubbing off on my white wedding gown or seeing weird streaks/fading in pictures.So I have decided I am going PALE-O COMMAND-O. Winter skin pale. Anyone who lives in a cold climate knows that scary sickly level of white us non-tanners get to by the time March rolls around. I’ve looked at a few pictures lately and thought, “hot damn, I look dead!”


Not tan & I was wearing bronzer, oy

I like to tell myself that the light, makeup, and overall glow of being a bride will not make me regret my decision. I’m hoping for a few rays of light to absorb into my face/neck before the big day. On the bright side a long wedding dress=my pasty white legs are covered. So, thank petunias for that. My legs look like they were ripped off a zombie bride corpse right now. Plus, they are covered in greening bruises from moving and being an overall animal…

Are you going the au-natural pale route on your wedding day or will you be tanning/spray-tanning?


Mrs. Porcupine

NYC/Lancaster, PA
Wedding Date:
March 2012
Dressing It Up
The Castle Invites!
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    kelly101212 50 posts, Worker bee @ 12:39 pm

    I’m super pale as well…I love my skin tone now, but I used to hate it when I was younger. I even *shudder* used to go to tanning beds too when I was in high school/college…I’m still kicking myself for the damage I’m sure I did to my skin!

    As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned to embrace my pale-ness, though. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I like it…and my fiance thinks I’m beautiful, so that’s all that matters to me!

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    VintageMilwBride 62 posts, Worker bee @ 4:25 pm

    I was a vintage bride and I love the 40’s. I have ivory porcelain skin and it works to my advantage since it was very “in” to have light skin at that time. I actually had to argue with my bridesmaids not to tan since it doesn’t look authentically vintage!

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    MoniqueJ 7 posts, Newbee @ 5:21 pm

    You look great without your tan! I’ve got blonde hair & blue eyes with pale skin and I’ve burned in the sun my whole life…like one of the other bees I’ve had moles and had some scares with skin cancer, so I’ve never stepped foot in a tanning bed! I do get spray tans to give me some color. I’m not sure of the brand that my salon uses, but they have different shades that you can get. I usually get medium because after you shower and the bronzer washes off, I have a really nice glow…I live in the South so everyone is tan here! I would go to a salon and just try it out to see if you like it, you’ve got some time! I stay away from the store bought stuff, those always seem to streak on me! Good luck with whatever you decide!

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