Personal Wedding Officiant
Mr. W and I are a couple of pretty dedicated atheists, so we knew from the start we weren’t having a church wedding—they’re lovely, but not for us.
That said, we did want something fairly traditional and meaningful to us as a couple…and that kinda ruled out the whole justice of the peace wedding, too. I figured we’d get around to finding an officiant sometime…
…but that pesky wedding to-do list app just KEPT bugging me about it. And I knew: If we fell back on a more religious officiant, we had a big holiday weekend to contend with. So one day, on a long drive, we figured it out.
Side note: Lots of our big relationship decisions and moments happen on long drives…it’s where Mr. W told me he loved me for the first time, where we decided to move in together, where we decided to get a dog. I don’t know why…probably because we spend a lot of time behind the wheel in LA traffic.
And at this point, I’m more excited for our officiant than almost any other part of the wedding…other than being married to Mr. W. Why?
My dad is officiating!!
And he’s going to be awesome at it. After all, he’s argued cases in front of the Supreme Court, he’s taught classes—he’s a great public speaker and an even more wonderful father and friend. He’s basically the closest person to the two of us.
My dad, my sister (MOH), and me—taken a few years ago.
It was especially important to Mr. W…see, his dad (an ordained minister) officiated his first wedding—and it was incredibly meaningful. And his dad has since passed away, so he couldn’t manage a repeat performance. But since Mr. W. knew how special that experience was, he encouraged me to ask my dad to get ordained online and officiate.
And when we asked my dad, we were surprised by his answer: He’d already researched both how to get ordained and how to put together a ceremony. He was going to propose it to us, if we hadn’t asked first.
Now it’s just a matter of seeing what he comes up with on the day-of. I know a lot of it is going to be a surprise and I fully anticipate a lot of tears and laughter—and, hopefully, some SOLID advice about how to maintain a long, healthy marriage. He and my mom have been together 42 years. I can’t think of anyone better to counsel us.
My dad’s the first person I call when I need advice, when I want to share news, when I’m stuck in traffic needed to talk…and I’m SO excited for him to officiate our wedding.
Dad getting to know his grand-dog. She LOVES him.
Will you have someone you know officiate your wedding? How did you make the decision?