Planning a Wedding in the Pinterest Era

Planning a wedding in the Pinterest era is both a tremendous blessing and a curse. I vaguely remember the day I was introduced to Pinterest…it was the fall semester of my freshman year of college, hanging out with a group of girlfriends, probably painting our nails and catching each other up on the day’s happenings. A friend asked me if I had joined Pinterest yet, and started to talk on and on about the site and everything she’d discovered since joining. Once I heard that I could search through thousands of pins (related to outfits, quotes, and weddings, of course) and add them to their own specific boards, I was hooked. I, too, had to have a Pinterest account.

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The trend caught on like wildfire, and soon I was seeing the same 20 or so pins added to every girl’s boards…you know, the cute fall outfit (complete with Starbucks cup and Ugg boots), the perfect wedding dress, the must-try-at-home soup recipe. It was my go-to website when a class was lulling me to sleep, or when my girlfriends and I wanted some downtime after a stressful day of tests. Within a month or so, my imaginary wedding was all planned out. My wedding board (aptly named: “The day I marry my prince”—so basic, not sorry) was full of decorations and dresses and flowers and wedding pictures that screamed romance and beauty and, well, perfection. I quickly discovered that’s exactly what Pinterest is for…pinning “perfection.” Sure, my hair will never look that great curled with tinfoil, and no, brownies don’t taste as good without eggs, but hey, at least I can try, and Pinterest will tell me how to achieve it in five or so easy DIY steps!

When I actually got engaged, I revisited my Pinterest wedding board and found that almost all of the things I pinned a couple years ago (with no ring on my finger, mind you) no longer matched the vision I currently had for our wedding day, and if it did, I couldn’t afford it. As I started actually planning our wedding day, I started getting disheartened that many of the aspects I wanted to include from my dream Pinterest wedding just couldn’t be done, and if they could be, they surely wouldn’t look like the picture! I wanted my wedding to be Style Me Pretty worthy, like the weddings featured on Pinterest. Oh, those picture-perfect weddings that seemed to have gone off without a hitch. The weddings where every.single.detail was planned and executed without a flaw. The wedding that I wanted to have, or so I thought. Little did I know that many, many of the “wedding photos” are from styled wedding shoots and not actual weddings. Huh. Who would have thought?

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I also quickly realized that with the budget I was working with, the budget that seemed SO big when I first started planning, wouldn’t get me very far when planning my dream Pinterest wedding. So what was I to do? I started from scratch, rebuilding my Pinterest wedding from the venue/dress/cake up. I started pinning things that offered more inspiration than just ideas for sheer imitation. I actually did end up pinning the wedding dress that turned out to be my wedding dress, but that was totally just a fluke. I do plan on trying to execute some of the DIYs I have pinned, but on a much smaller (and less expensive!) scale.

I am no longer trying to plan the perfect, Pinterest-worthy wedding that I once was just several months ago. Of course, I would love for SMP to feature my wedding (what girl wouldn’t?), but that’s not the end goal of planning our wedding. The end goal is to marry my very best friend and host a lovely, awesome, wonderful party for all our friends and relatives. Our wedding day will be perfect to us, because it is just that…ours. The day will be full of love and laughter and tears and straight-up beautiful memories, and the decorations and cake and favors will have absolutely nothing to do with that.

Living in the Pinterest era can have its perks, but for real life brides trying to plan their dream weddings on a budget, it can be a real source of disappointment when their pins don’t always become reality. I firmly believe the quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When we start to compare our weddings to those around us/on Pinterest, it can cause us to lose sight of what the most important aspect of the day is…marrying the love of our lives. By all means, pin your little hearts out, but don’t let the comparison of “perfect” weddings steal your joy when planning your own.

Have any of you brides-to-be felt the pressure of planning a “perfect” Pinterest wedding?

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Mrs. Clownfish

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  1. mssquid Bee
    Mrs. Squid 49 posts, Newbee @ 8:26 am

    I love this post – such a great reminder for brides planning and also so well written! Finding out about styled wedding shoots was like revealing the Wizard of Oz to me…how could I be expected to aspire to something that wasn’t even real? The real specialness of a wedding comes from the two people getting married!

  2. msnarwhalbee Bee
    Mrs. Narwhal 87 posts, Worker bee @ 8:44 am

    Okay our brains are the same because before I got to the last paragraph I kept nodding my head and then said to myself Pinterest creates such a “Comparison is a thief of joy” world. Then I read your last paragraph!

    I really loved the way you wrote this post. It’s so true! I think we put such a high standard in how our wedding will be captured in photographs (and videos for some) that we can lose sight so easily of the experience. It’s like going to a concert and watching it through your phone as you capture pictures and videos. You’re not living it quite the same.

    I love looking at old wedding photos… grandparent generations often have one picture! And it’s always so beautiful.

  3. walrus Bee
    Mrs. Walrus 187 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:52 am

    I love and agree with this so much! I did create a pinterest account when I got engaged, but I slowly started to loose interest in it after realizing how ridiciulously expensive everything was. Now im doing what I like and what I want and most importantly what I can afford. But I do use it for bouquet inspirations.

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    kanlink 493 posts, Helper bee @ 8:56 am

    This has definitely been a challenge for me as a super perfectionist. To me, the ceremony is ours and the reception is something we have to do but don’t want to. And since i love having an opportunity to express and exercise my creativity all i really care about is perfection and how it looks. Its definitely been really hard in terms of managing expectations.

  5. msbordercollie Bee
    Mrs. Border Collie 102 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:02 am

    I am a weirdo. I didn’t preplan my wedding using pinterest. Once I got engaged, I started a wedding board and pinned things I knew that I wanted to do. It basically put all my ideas (and websites were to buy stuff when I was ready) into one place. But I’ve never been someone who planned my wedding years in advance (no judgement!). Which is funny considering that I’ve been reading wb for seven years. haha. Guess I was planning in my head. I’m glad you’re realizing that you can still have the perefect wedding, even if it doesn’t match your pinterest board. 😀

  6. msfilly Bee
    Mrs. Filly 85 posts, Worker bee @ 10:05 am

    I don’t have a Pinterest account buttttt I definitely agree that it’s so easy to get caught up in all the gorgeous inspiration sources floating around out there. This whole post was great, but I really love your last paragraph – ultimately, you want to look back on this time of your life with fond memories, and if you’re constantly comparing yourself to whatever the Internet is doing, how are you going to enjoy this process? Keep doing you, lady.

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    SaraJeanQ 1307 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:58 pm

    Mrs. Border Collie – I’m with you. Never had Pinterest until I got engaged, I just got it to create a board of ideas I already had! But then got a recipe board, fitness, etc. and I do like it.

    What I don’t like is the cookie cutter photography, cardboard phrases and signs, “Pinterest traditions” that are DIY and corny. Will not be doing anything JUST to create a picture.

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