I Couldn’t Tell You Before the Wedding

So before we leave on our unplugged honeymoon (more details on that to come next week), I have a few more posts to share about the Sword wedding planning process.

It’s time to divulge that there was one thing that could have been a HUGE problem but luckily turned out perfect in the end.

Truthbomb: We might have invited a few more people to our rehearsal dinner than we could actually fit in the reserved room. How much more you ask? Well since our rehearsal dinner goal was to feed anyone who came from out-of-state or out-of-country, we ended up inviting a total of 148 people.

The room on other hand? It only fit 50-70 people max. WHAT WERE WE THINKING!?!?! 🙂

We were thinking how much fun it would be see everyone twice, we were thinking feeding everyone twice was a way to thank them for making such a long trip, but in the end it was clear we were NOT thinking because it wasn’t until after the invitations had gone out that Mr. Sword turned to me and said, “How many people can we fit in that room at Cowboy Jack’s?” My response, “Oh, a hundred or so.” Wrong!

After checking our emails from the rehearsal dinner venue, it was clear we had over-invited. Yet, for some odd reason, I wasn’t worried. I knew it would all work out, and I had to focus on the real concerns of the wedding such as paper color and the weather. (Really, Mrs. Sword?)

Of course we knew ahead of time that many of our Scottish guests wouldn’t be able to make the long flight, but that still only got us down to like 110, for the rest of the discrepancy we had to rely on US declines, and people who WERE coming to the wedding but who just couldn’t make the rehearsal dinner for whatever reason. Scary. Especially since I refused to tell any of our out-of-town guests. So it remained a secret that we needed over half of those invited to the rehearsal dinner to RSVP a “no.”

I would normally have shouted my faux-pas on the blog in order to warn others against making the same mistake, but I wanted to avoid making a guest feel like they weren’t welcome! All of our amazing guests were so important to us and dammit we were gonna find seating for them all!

And then of course, it all worked out like I knew it would. Our final number ended up being 66 people. Four under our room’s max occupancy. Swords for the win. And no one had to know.

Did you or do you have something you over-invited for by accident? Any secrets you care to share post-wedding that you knew would work out in the end?


Mrs. Sword

Wedding Date:
March 2013
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  1. mslemur Bee
    mslemur 616 posts, Busy bee @ 8:23 am

    This is too funny! I’m so glad it worked out for you, I can just see 100+ people trying to jam into a tiny room 😉

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    Mrs. Bracelet 279 posts, Helper bee @ 8:25 am

    Oh wow, lucky!

  3. mstoadstool Bee
    mstoadstool 2485 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:59 am

    Wow, I’d have been a nerve rack over those numbers!

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    ladymegbeth 227 posts, Helper bee @ 10:17 am

    Good heavens, you got lucky with that one! Geez…..if that kind of luck in wedding planning isn’t a good omen for the resulting marriage, then I don’t know what is! 😉

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    mkelove 666 posts, Busy bee @ 11:23 am

    Wow, that is luck of the Irish for you 🙂 I think it is great that you wanted to be able to provide that option to your guests though, very thoughtful!

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    MrsN14 3280 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:25 pm

    That’s awesomt that it worked out so well! We are inviting 75 more people than the max capacity at our venue so I hope it works out as well for us!

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    Mrs. Panda 1359 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:11 pm

    I’m so happy it worked out for you! I don’t think I could handle that much stress, PBear and I are definitely under inviting, just in case…

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    Ms_Maple 115 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:50 am

    I’m glad you weren’t worried – I would have been hyperventilating!

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