Changing My Mind about the Veil (Repeatedly)

Do you remember when I said I wouldn’t wear a birdcage veil? Allow me to eat my words.


Mmmm, shame beignet”¦

I wanted to wear a two-tier, long-ish veil, with one tier pulled over my face as a blusher””or, a drop veil. It went along with Mr. Dragon’s idea of me as a bride, and who could argue with that?

But then I actually tried a long, two-tier veil”¦and I felt like I was stuck in a cage made of tulle. It was touching my face, my hair, my arms, everywhere, and I felt claustrophobic. It also added to the kid-playing-dress-up feeling I’ve been fighting. Big huge veil? Not my thing.

Wonderful Mr. Dragon told me, over and over, that I didn’t have to wear a veil, that I didn’t have to wear a veil over my face, that I could do whatever made me happy and comfortable. So I started idly wandering my way through the veils on Etsy, hoping I would find something that struck my fancy. I still wanted tulle, not netting, but I wanted something a lot shorter.

I tentatively clicked into the birdcage section. I wanted double-layer, that wouldn’t be all up in my face, and wouldn’t cost an arm and a leg. This one caught my eye:


Image and product from The Little White Dress on Etsy

It was only $22! I pulled the trigger, bought it, and explained to Mr. Dragon that I’d still have something covering my face but it wouldn’t be a traditional veil. He shrugged, said, “Like one of those retro veil things?” and wandered off to play with tools in the driveway.

And then it got here”¦and I didn’t really like how it looked.


All of my wedding-attire photo-taking happens when Mr. Dragon is around, so that’s why it’s an iPhone photo”¦dragging out the tripod is a bit suspect!

It wasn’t really a problem with the veil itself (though I misunderstood the double-layer aspect and thought it’d be more like a veil with a blusher in the front and tulle in the back). I just didn’t like how it looked on my head, and could foresee all kinds of problems with having the tulle in my face throughout the entire ceremony (read: I couldn’t see very well, and was pretty sure if I cried I’d get makeup all over the veil!).

Back to the drawing board! The lovely Miss Eagle helped me out immensely, sending me all kinds of links and giving me suggestions for what might work. I also enlisted the help of MOH Michelle, who has been itching to be able to do something, what with our long-distance planning.

Miss Eagle suggested a traditional veil, something nice and long because I’m tall. MOH Michelle loved a shorter veil. I threw caution to the wind and decided that pouf isn’t a horrible thing. In fact, I straight up embraced the pouf and ordered this (sorry, Miss E!):

Bubble veil from Svitlana’s Bridal Veils on Etsy

And”¦I love it! It’s kind of mangled from shipping, but I think letting it air out, and possibly steaming it, will fix things up.


Let’s pretend I’m not sunburned and my hair is a bit more bridal, shall we?



It’s a giant poufball, and I like it. I guess I should have just embraced the pouf in the first place!

Did you struggle with finding a veil, or any other aspect of your wedding-day look?


Mrs. Dragon

Sioux Lookout/Brockville, ON
Wedding Date:
September 2012
Post-Wedding Blues
A Place to Party

Related Posts

Add a comment


  1. aardvark Bee
    aardvark 1129 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:33 pm

    I LOVE me some poof! That is SO pretty, and fun and bridal without being stuffy! I love it! If I had it to do over again I think I would have gone for one just like that and kept it on all day. So cute!

  2. msdragon Bee
    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 2:33 pm

    @Red Panda: yeah, the face-touching thing kinda sucks. I didn’t realize how claustrophobic I am!

  3. Member
    priyathescientist 1514 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:50 pm

    I love your veil; it’s a very modern approach to the traditional veil. 🙂

  4. Member
    naturedoc1112 155 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:51 pm

    Yeah I totally struggled with a veil. Ended up going with what my mom wanted: a chapel length, simple one-layer veil.

  5. Member
    FutureMrsKamilDark 303 posts, Helper bee @ 8:59 pm

    That’s exactly the type of veil I’m thinking of wearing! I’m excited to see how it works out for you!

  6. Member
    kellylee 57 posts, Worker bee @ 9:14 pm

    I ordered a short veil just like your original and I didn’t like it either. Mine was also around $20 (part of the appeal). It comes just under my chin. I imagined I would wear it down for my walk down the aisle then my Mother would put it back for me. The problem is it looks ridiculous back off my face. I guess these veils are only made to be worn down. I have since ordered a lace trimmed cathedral length drop veil which I know Fiance will be much more into. I hope it works out better!

  7. Member
    pumalvr 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:35 am

    I really love both veils. I think that if you attached a brooch, feather, flower, etc fascinator of some sorts to the short veil, you could wear it for the reception.

  8. Member
    ImperialBride 28 posts, Newbee @ 3:48 am

    You pull that veil off so well! It looks great on you.

  9. Member
    t3al3af 61 posts, Worker bee @ 10:04 am

    Not a fan of poofs myself, but you rock it! So cute, and as others have said, very retro!

  10. msdragon Bee
    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 11:19 am

    Thanks everyone! I’m really surprised I ended up with poofy but it makes me happy so why not?! 🙂

add a comment

Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors