Sharing. It’s something we all learn to do when we’re young. It’s a relatively easy concept when we’re talking about things like food, toys, and clothing, but I’m talking about sharing your wedding stuff. It’s a little bit more difficult to share your wedding planner (AKA your mom), share your appointments at, say, a bridal salon, share your guest list, your time, your space. But that’s what you have to do if you AND your sister are both getting married in the same year.
This is a tricky subject to talk about because it’s so easy to sound like a whiny, selfish brat who thinks that everyone else should stop what they’re doing for entire year to focus on your wedding. Truthfully, that’s not how I feel. I’m the girl who loves weddings! I’m super happy when anyone gets engaged! I’ve had two close friends get engaged after me who are both getting married before me—no complaints here. I’m pumped for both lovely ladies. People don’t stop having babies, moving abroad, and making huge life changes just because you’re getting married. I get that.
In an effort for full disclosure, knowing that my younger sister was going to get engaged so soon after me was very tough for me to wrap my head around at first. I’m the oldest of three kids, two girls and a boy. My sister and I (only 18 months apart in age) grew up fighting ALL THE TIME. She struggled to find her own identity aside from “Miss Sword’s little sister,” and I struggled with how to relate to her despite our very different personalities. My sister and I shared everything growing up. We shared all the same family friends, we got our ears pierced the exact same day, we even bought cars the same summer when we were both home from college. We were pros at scream/crying tantrums, and we never missed an opportunity to point out each other’s flaws. It could get pretty ugly sometimes. My little brother would threaten to run away when our fights got really bad. The only one who could talk reason into us was Mom Sword (who has officially cursed us both to have daughters like us, haha).
Miraculously, everything changed once we got a little space. We both moved away for college and we started to become friends. We started to have fun together. And now, SHE IS NOW ONE OF MY FAVORITE PEOPLE. I love my sister so much! She has like a billion good qualities. Who knew?? 🙂
My sister got engaged over Memorial Day weekend this year, but I knew it was coming thanks to FBIL keeping me in the loop and asking my opinion on the ring. Her wedding will be next June. My wedding will be next March. Three-plus months apart. Naturally everyone is quick to say that our parents must be majorly stressing out right about now, but the truth is Mom Sword and Dad Sword are thrilled! Two daughters and two weddings means double the blessings for our family in 2013.
I really can’t explain why I felt so sad/mad at first, but whatever the reason it doesn’t matter anymore. I was only looking at the negative aspects of how I would miss out on certain things because I could only fly to Minnesota so often, or how on earth was I going to have time to fulfill all my matron of honor duties and be a bride. How would she be my maid of honor and a bride as well? Truthfully, all I can see now are the positive parts about sharing our wedding year. We can share wedding vendors, ideas, and tips. We can start taking anniversary trips together! Woohoo! This is going to be such a memorable time for us both, and I can’t think of anyone I’d rather share it with it.
From now on, she will be referred to as Sister or MOH Big Eyes, because she has the most beautiful big blue eyes ever!! And I have the small “slit eyes.”
Notice the difference?
Our younger brother, age 24, will be known as “The Glue” from now because he thinks he’s the glue that holds the five of us together. HAHA. We let him think that. 🙂
He barely lets me take photos of him, hence the goofiness!
It’s been a bit of a running joke in the family that The Glue has very interesting roles in both of his sisters’ bridal parties; at my wedding he will be wearing a kilt and at Sister Big Eyes’s wedding he’ll be standing up as a “bridesman” (a bit unconventional but totally awesome). So in one wedding he has to wear a skirt and the other one he’s standing up on the girls’ side! And the thing is, The Glue doesn’t care one bit! He’s a fantastic and funny little brother, and while he is a bit tired of all the wedding talk (who wouldn’t be?), he gets along great with both of our fiancés and he’s more than happy to be in both weddings. Best.brother.ever!!
Did anyone else have a very real yet (maybe not so proud) reaction to another person’s engagement? Anyone else have a sister close in age? How do you two get along? Anyone else have an awesome big or little brother?