The Groom and His Men

In deciding what Mr. Castle and his groomsmen will wear, we have debated over: Suit or tux? Gray or black? Buy or rent? And on top of all that, what style?


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I actually was leaning toward a gray suit for Mr. Castle and black for his groomsmen. Mr. Castle wasn’t really feeling that option. I would rather him be happy with what he wears, so I didn’t push it. It should be his choice. He is more into a black tux for himself and the boys. Sort of like what is pictured below.


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photography by Gia Canali Photography

I think that option would be great. Maybe we’ll have the groomsmen wear a different color tie, maybe orange!


Image via Grey Likes Weddings / Photography by Meg Perotti

I think the above picture is actually a suit, but this is the look Mr. Castle is going for. He would like a more modern slim-fit tux. The problem with that is it is next to impossible to find a slim-fit tux to rent.

We popped into our local Men’s Wearhouse to ask some questions. First question: “Do you have any modern slim-fit tuxes for rental?” Answer: “No, all of our tuxes are boxy.” OK…next question: “Can we maybe bring in one of our groomsmen to try on some styles?” Answer: “When you order tuxes they come in two days before the event from Texas. We don’t have them in the store to try on…”

Maybe I just don’t know how renting tuxes work, but to me that’s really weird. I mean, I got to try on my wedding dress. Yeah it was way too big, but at least I got to visualize how it would look on me. So the bride gets to know what she will wear on the wedding day, but the groom doesn’t get any idea until two days before the wedding? That just doesn’t make sense in my mind.

OK, now that my rant is over, I know there are other stores we can look at for tux rentals, and maybe they actually allow you to try on different styles. For argument’s sake we decided to look into buying something for him to wear. That way he could get it tailored to be the slim fit he wants.


Image via Indochino

Indochino‘s website has a lot of suit and tux options. Their prices aren’t bad and the styles are exactly what Mr. Castle is looking for. But you order it online, so once again no trying it on…


Image via Macy’s

This is Mr. Castle’s favorite option. We found it online at Macy’s, and with their constant sales we might be able to get it for a really great price.

I think it’s unfair that weddings are all about the bride and her dress. People often overlook the groom in his boxy rented tux. Well I want my man to look and feel good! I can’t wait to see him all dressed up, and I think choosing his ensemble deserves just as much attention as choosing my dress did.

We did end up finding a place that at least rents slim-fit pants for his groomsmen. It’s called Friar Tux Shop, and they have locations all over Southern California. The guys even got to try some stuff on! The verdict is still out on whether or not Mr. Castle will buy or rent, but he better decide soon. Time is running out!

What is your groom wearing? Tux, suit? Renting, buying?

Mrs. Castle

NYC/Southern California
Wedding Date:
April 2012
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  1. msdragon Bee
    Mrs. Dragon 814 posts, Busy bee @ 6:40 pm

    I really prefer the look of slim cut tuxes and suits! I’ve actually never seen Mr. Dragon dressed up any further than a collared shirt and nice pants, and one time, a tie, so I don’t really have any opinions on what he’ll be wearing. It’s firmly up to him and I think he’s going the funky suspenders/bow tie/hat kinda direction, so we’ll see. 🙂

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    Wedding Invitations, Guest @ 12:01 am

    We’ve been shopping too, and I think we’ll settle on the fitted tuxes.

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    mollyml05 4 posts, Wannabee @ 7:42 am

    My fiance bought that same tuxedo from Macy’s for our wedding, and he loves it. It’s definitely a slim, modern fit. And the price is great, especially if you get it on sale. If he wears it twice, it will pay for itself.

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    Miss_Manda 301 posts, Helper bee @ 8:05 am

    Lucky for me, my honey and I came to agreement really quickly that we’d use the wedding as an opportunity for him to purchase a lovely three-piece suit. It will cost more, but he’ll get a lot of use out of it and I’ll love going out on post-wedding dates with my *husband* in his dapper wedding suit. 🙂

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    coyote 2051 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:43 am

    Ohhh I love that tux from Macy’s! We haven’t decided what Mr. Coyote and his dudes will wear yet, but it’s probably going to be a black tux as well.

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    prncss47 399 posts, Helper bee @ 9:35 am

    We went to a bridal open house here in Orange County and also just found out Friar now offer slim-fit tuxes! I hope this route works for us. I’m sure yours boys will look fab!

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    mssocks 1336 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:58 am

    Ahhh, the boxy tux. That’s why we ended up making all of our men buy their own suits. I’m jealous that you have a rental place that rents out slim-cut suits because we did NOT have that for our wedding!

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