The One With The Faux Glow

To tan or not to tan—that is the age-old pre-wedding question.

I’m pale. I used to tan easily when I was a kid, and my hair would turn white-blonde. As I grew older, I started turning more red than golden brown, and my hair stayed the same shade. Thinking back, it may have had more to do with the fact that I had obligations, studying and work in the summers instead of tag, swimming and day camp.

For our wedding, I assumed for years I would be tan. I burn easily, even with SPF 60, so actual sun tanning is out. Same goes for the tanning beds—not really my thing. That leaves spray tanning.

You probably know what’s coming next”¦

I don’t want to pull a Ross.

I’ve had one spray tan in my life. It was right after Cam and I first started dating and I wanted to look extra good at a wedding we were going to. Suffice it to say, I looked ridiculous. I took a picture on my phone while the bronzer was drying (which is now long gone or I swear I’d show it to you), and laughed out loud at it for months.

Fast forward three years and I started thinking about getting another spray tan. Of course, I wanted to try it out before the big day, and started looking into appointments in town for my bridal shower/bachelorette weekend. As I was reading Yelp reviews of spray tanning salons in town, I realized something:

I’m pale. I’ve been pale as long as Cam has known me. I’ll probably be pale forever. Why would I want to be a weird shade of tan and possibly orange on my wedding day?

I quit my search. I’ll be my normal, pale self on my wedding day. Although pale doesn’t look as good in white as tan does, I want to look like me.

How do you all weigh in on the great spray tan debate, hive?


Mrs. Camera

Charlotte, NC/Charleston, SC
Wedding Date:
September 2013
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    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:55 pm

    I was going to say what @Mrs. Sword said – that she wrote about this as well.

    I think that every Bride needs to do whatever will make her feel like the best version of herself – regardless if that means said Bride is pale, orange, or somewhere in between the two. I’m glad you found what works for you. 🙂

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    misssemi 375 posts, Helper bee @ 4:05 pm

    Nothing new to add but – all of the sidebar ads on this page are now for tans! Oh, and one for Body Shop body butter/exfoliating cream.

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    soontobee, Guest @ 9:26 am

    They have other options than “the box tan.” We plan on getting sprayed by a stylist- it looks great and surprisingly natural! good luck!

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    mrsskeletonkey 3442 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:56 am

    I used a self tanner from Bare Escentuals called “Faux Tan” & it worked wonderfully. It’s not orange & all, & even though I’m naturally slightly olive skin toned, I used it on my maid of honor who is basically albino, & it worked awesome on her too!
    The only advice I have about it, is to make sure you exfoliate really well before applying it with the brush, & before your wedding day, make sure your last application is the day before the wedding. My dress got a little stained around the arm pits because I applied it the morning of my wedding.
    The bottle is huge & it comes with a neat little application brush. I got mine for a great deal on QVC. I would never get a spray tan because I’ve seen some really terrible ones on some of my friends lol.

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    Mrs. Rubber Stamps 821 posts, Busy bee @ 9:24 am

    That is one of the best Friends episodes!

    I am all about being my natural pale self. I didn’t want to look like someone different on my big day. To each her own though, as long as you are happy with your decision!

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