How Do I Deal with My Awkward Relationship with My Dad?
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I just got engaged and couldn’t be more excited to get married next year. But one thing that’s been nagging at me is the fact that I have a pretty strained father-daughter relationship. On paper, he is a GREAT dad. He was always there for me growing up. I was a typical (obnoxious) teenager and it was right around those years where we started drifting apart. He was still completely supportive of me (put me through college and is always around for helpful fatherly advice), but our personal relationship feels SO AWKWARD. We don’t hug or express emotions toward each other or anything like that. All of this is making me really anxious for those father-daughter moments at our wedding, like him walking me down the aisle and the father-daughter dance.
I feel really confused about this whole situation.
It would be one thing if we had a bad relationship, where I could more easily (albeit painfully) deal with the situation. But it’s more like we’ve just drifted very far apart between my teenage years and now, and now that the wedding is coming up I’m feeling waves of both guilt and anxiety over those traditional father-daughter moments that come along with a wedding.
Part of me thinks it’s a good time to start a conversation with him about our strained relationship, but I don’t know where to start. If you had a bad or strained father daughter relationship but were able to come back together, I’d love to hear your advice on how to bring up the subject of getting emotionally closer.