Suit Yourself!

Deciding what the men would wear had a big influence on the color scheme of our wedding. As I mentioned, we had a tough time deciding on our color scheme, largely because I had no idea Mr. Sunbeam was going to be picky about his attire. At first I pictured the guys in brown suits for fall.


But Mr. Sunbeam was not to be caught in a brown suit. He had his heart set on navy blue (which to me was not a fall color), or black. We were not seeing eye to eye here.

I also loved the look of a lighter suit, but Mr. Sunbeam wanted something he considered to be more useful and practical. Black or dark grey. Since our wedding isn’t going to be super formal, I wasn’t into the black suit idea that he was set on. While searching for an alternative in a sea of black suits, I came across images like this:


Yes! The men could wear various charcoal vests instead of black suits! That will give the wedding a casual feel and a sprinkle of personality and Mr. Sunbeam can sport a black or grey suit just like he wanted. Momma Sunbeam and Brother Sunbeam were a little taken aback by our proposal, but in the end they accepted that we just like to do things a little differently and went shopping for a vest. Like the bridesmaids, we let all our men pick out their own charcoal vests and pants, but first we sent a few inspiration photos and links to actual vests to get them started.

Banana Republic, $38 (source)

J.Crew, $125 (source)

Mango shop, now $20 (source)

Sadly the men are not on the ball like my ladies. I think my brother is the only who has his outfit ready to go. In retrospect perhaps we should have send an email saying, buy x, y, or z, but we thought some guys might want to buy a full suit with a vest (like my brother) and others might be happy just finding a vest to match pants they already had. Looks like it’s time to crack the bridal whip.

Are your men going jacket-less for your wedding? Did you give your guys freedom to pick out their wears or did you pick it for them?


Mrs. Sunbeam

San Francisco/Grove City, PA
Wedding Date:
September 2009
Glamnuptials: The Favors
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    Soon Mrs. B 38 posts, Newbee @ 7:28 pm

    LOVE IT! My FI picked out the tuxes, but then had me come along to “confirm” choices. LOL! He’s so darling – just wanted to be sure it was right… AND we ended up renting a vest and tie for my Dad too so he could fit in with the guys in his own personal tux.
    Also @Miss Star – that’s so hilarious that you gave them the “artificial deadline” – great thinkin!

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 11:27 pm

    that JCrew pic was the inspiration for our groomsmen!

    we ended up ordered vest+tie combos off ebay for an awesome $17 for each set and they were of good quality and turned out SO WELL! YAAY!!! 🙂

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    poodle 3386 posts, Sugar bee @ 4:36 am

    I haven’t even thought of the guys yet! Ohh gosh!!

    … but i wish we could have a (non so cold) day so they could all wear vest – or suspenders – like in my inspiration for Mr. Poodle

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    LCI Paper, Guest @ 9:06 am

    I love that brides (and both families!) are allowing men to show their personalities and their sense of style by letting the groom feel more relaxed on his big day.

    I’m getting married in September. It’s a non-traditional, outdoor wedding at a friend’s house in Massachusetts’ Pioneer Valley. Our theme is fall. We’ll be decorating with pumpkins, corn stalks, fall colored flowers, and different wooden ornaments that my parents are staining.

    One of my favorite colors is orange and my fiancée is supportive of my odd tuxedo choice. I’m actually wearing an orange tie and vest. This will be complimented with a brown pinstriped jacket and pants, and a cream shirt. Together, the ensemble looks very fall and more casual than a traditional tux. Since we are not dressing our wedding party, they are free to wear that they want. Because my outfit is less formal, there will be less of a divide between my look and the look of the men in my wedding party. I am thrilled to have this freedom.

    I was so inspired by Miss Sunbeam’s post that I referenced it and did a followup on our blog. Thanks for a great article!

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 6:29 pm

    I reallllly really like the vests! I wish that I was confident enough that my guy’s GM’s would look good in those…very very nice though!!!!

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    MrsLintner2be 60 posts, Worker bee @ 8:16 pm

    My groomsmen are going jacketless as well 🙂 White shirts, black vests, black pants, with the shirtsleeves rolled up. It’s my fiance’s favorite “dressy” outfit, and it was his choice for the guys. My groom is wearing a suit, at least for the ceremony and pictures, because my biggest pet peeve is when you can’t tell the difference between the groom and the groomsmen!

    I was planning on buying the vests all the same, but i kinda like the idea of giving the GM’s the freedom to pick out their own choice!

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