Sweating the Small Stuff

We asked our wedding guests for a bit of wedding-day advice on our RSVP cards. We didn’t want to ask for marriage advice because we’d be getting plenty of that in our guestbook. So far we’ve gotten a few funny ones:


My grandma is glad I’m marrying a future doctor. It’s the most I can contribute to the family, having been an English major.


At least one of my guests will be sorely disappointed.


Great advice! At least fake it!


I don’t think shots are even included in our bar package. Nor am I capable of consuming 10.


A nod to the best musical collaboration of our time

But I noticed there’s a bit of a theme going on with he rest. A lot of people told us to enjoy the day or didn’t write anything at all, but many people have cautioned us against stress.



I am now worrying about excessive perspiration with all those layers of tulle. I’m sweating just thinking about it:


I’m guessing “don’t sweat the small stuff” is just one of those platitudes people pull out when asked for advice, but still, I can’t help but imagine this is directed specifically at me because I’m a generally stressed-out drama queen. I’m trying to keep this advice in mind every day, but to be honest, it’s not helping. At all.

All I do is worry about the wedding details. For the past year or so, I’ve been a slave to my wedding to-do list, and now that it’s almost all done, I’ve become a slave to the logistical planning. For instance:

  • How will we make sure our overnight bags make it to our wedding-night hotel room?
  • What happens if the venue forgets to put our cake-cutting knife on the cake table?
  • Where do we go after we enter the reception to our jazzy entrance song?
  • How do we transition from exiting the church amid cheering and wolf whistles to wrangling family members for photos on the church steps?
  • How will we ever get all of our wedding stuff (centerpieces, candy-buffet glassware, table numbers, etc.) to and from the venue without renting a U-Haul?
  • What do we do if our photo-booth backdrop is too big for the reception space?


Personal pic

This is a dramatic re-enactment of me sweating the small stuff.

I’m confident that our wedding will be beautiful and wonderful and I’ll be married to Mr. Unicycle at the end of it, which is all I really want anyway, but I still have these worries running through my head constantly. My plan is to reread this post some time in July and laugh heartily at what a psycho I sounded like. But right now, I’m too stressed out to laugh heartily.

So tell me: What are you most worried about for your wedding day? What’s the best wedding advice you’ve gotten?


Mrs. Unicycle

Chicago, IL
Wedding Date:
June 2012
Wedding Day Is Upon Us
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  1. Member
    RochelleED 38 posts, Newbee @ 5:14 pm

    I’m still waiting for people to answer or give advice on the wedding details you worry about, Miss Unicycle.

    I worry about the same things!

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    rivendeler 1244 posts, Bumble bee @ 1:51 am

    Wow, thank you for your comment, so inspiring!!!! I can not believe all that went “wrong” in your wedding and still only you noticed it!!! Feeling a lot better, honestly 😀 Thank you!

    I am scared of:

    * Weather, of course!! We’re marrying in a garden and for me it’s very, very important the ceremony to happen in the open air as i am quite the nature-lover;
    * triping while going down the aisle! Seriously, my shoes are medium heeled so fine, but i am walking on grass, laying on my grandfather’s arm, on a dress that ONLY saturday i noticed how long it is indeed!!
    *my FI’s ex may show up……..well, if she DOES show up at least i truly hope she BEHAVES and doesn’t wear a ultra-mini skirt and almost no top..

    as for the rest, let’s hope for the best!! 12 days to goo!!

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:34 am

    These are hilarious, I love your guests! I was most worried about rain, and then, when we got closer to the day, how the hell everything was going to get to the wedding and back cause it was so much stuff.

  4. msfairy Bee
    msfairy 976 posts, Busy bee @ 7:19 pm

    The rsvp responses are the cutest thing and such a fun keepsake.. LOVE!

  5. coyote Bee
    coyote 2051 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:49 pm

    Love all the responses you got Uni! I am deff sweating alllll the small stuff right now!

  6. msfox Bee
    msfox 1635 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:02 am

    Chica, I tooootally sweat about the small stuff, too! I think my biggest (and stupidest) concern is that the photog will get there to take “getting ready” shots, since she’s not coming until 11am or so. Or that my parents will be so on top of my case that I won’t get to dance. Oh, and that our reception ends so super early that it’ll suck. Meh.

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    SarahConnors 152 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:56 pm

    My mom gave me the best advice so far I think. We’re having a DW (a drivable distance though)- and I’m going up for 3 days prior with my maid of honor/sister who lives in another country normally. My mom said to get all the little stuff done so I can just bask in the happiness that surrounds this day. I have to say- she’s right! But I enjoy DIY stuff- so I’m basking in that as well.
    My biggest fear- torrential rain I suppose- or that any more loved ones won’t make it to the big day- my great-grandmother passed away just a month and a half ago and we’re just 10 days away from our wedding- and it broke my heart. I guess I also worry that it won’t come together like I’m hoping too. *sigh*

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 7:43 am

    My parents drove 600 miles this weekend to help with wedding stuff. That greatly reduced my stress because we got soooo much done. Now off to taste wine for our welcome cocktail party!

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