We wanted to get all the “official” wedding stuff done quickly so people could just relax and have fun, so we did our dances to get everything going. We did not prepare a cool choreographed dance for our first move. We slow shuffled with Cherry Bomb, who would occasionally reach up and push our faces together to make us kiss. Even though the first dance is usually really awkward for everyone, both participating and observing, I really loved it. (I can’t speak for my guests. They look pretty damn bored in the background of these pictures.) We danced to the song I had dreamed we would dance to at our wedding since we first started dating. And, if you remember from earlier, it is also the inspiration behind the engraving on my wedding ring—Jonathan Richman’s “My Baby Love Love Loves Me.”
My baby love love loves me now/Even more than I prayed for/My baby love love loves me now/Even more than I praaaayed
I prayed/I asked/But I didn’t expect this/My baby love love loves me now/Even more than I prayed for/Even more than I prayed
Well she loves/She does/But I had to be ready for it/Well she loves/She does/But I had to be reeeeeady
I prayed /I asked/And I was blessed
Well, my baby love love loves me now/Even more than I prayed for/Even more than I prayed
Well, she loves/She hates/But she communicates
And my baby love love loves me now/Even more than I prayed for/Even more than I prayed
My dad dance was pretty weird, too. My dad and I don’t necessarily listen to the same music, and when I asked him what he wanted to use to dance with me, he said he’d get back to me. And he didn’t. So, I had to figure out what song encapsulated my dad to me. Whenever I think of my dad and music, I think of three different songs. Johnny Cash’s “Ring of Fire” (because he enjoys singing it), Marty Robbins’s “El Paso” (also because he enjoys singing it), and Gordon Lightfoot’s “The Edmund Fitzgerald” (because he listened to it a lot.) None of them really seemed right for the moment, but Johnny Cash seemed like a good bet. So, I found a version of him singing “You Are My Sunshine.” It is probably the saddest version of that song ever recorded, but, hey, it was an artist we could both get behind and everyone knows the lyrics.
We shuffle danced and spent most of the dance talking and joking around. He asked for my critique of his speech and seemed generally happy. It was exactly what I expected.
It was a sweet moment and I’m glad we kept the traditional dances. It was something we toyed with not doing.
Like I said, lots of laugh. My sister made fun of us for just talking the entire time.
Mr. Cannon’s first dance with his mom was equally unplanned. Right off the bat, he decided to do a Neil Diamond song since his mom is a big fan, but he spent a long time figuring out which song he wanted to do. He finally chose the crowd-pleaser, “Sweet Caroline.” If you are nervous about your dance, it’s a pretty good choice, because everyone will take their attention off of you and do the “so good! so good!” chants and sing along parts.
MIL Cannon LOVES to dance, and I could tell this was a really special moment for her. Mr. Cannon is the third of four boys, and is the first to get married. I think she had been thinking of this dance for a long time before it happened.
How did you pick the songs you used for your traditional dances?
All Photos by Mary Wyar Photography