After our fun exit, we scrambled into a Town Car that we had reserved for the 10-minute drive to the hotel (LOL). We arrived and immediately laid into the champagne in our room, a delightful surprise courtesy of the Drake (and welcome, as we had each had maybe two drinks total at the reception). This was such a nice way to decompress together, and something about which we had been very intentional when we planned not to attend any sort of after-party.
The next morning, we got up, gathered our things, and made it to 8:00 AM mass (!) as it was Sunday and we are crazy Catholics. Then we headed to the Majestic where we were hosting our farewell brunch. My parents and sister helped us set up the delivery from Panera Bread, and we spent the next two hours chatting with our friends and family before everyone headed to the airport. This was a really nice way to thank our out-of-town guests for coming.
Of course, the thanking had really just begun. We had tried to keep up with writing our thank you cards as we received gifts, but even so, we had a pretty substantial list to tackle after the wedding.
The inside says: “I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sixpence’s Advice Regarding Thank You Notes
- Keep a very detailed list in Excel of who gave you what, and whether a card has been sent yet. I don’t know what we would have done if we hadn’t been diligent about this.
- Beware of Vistaprint. I know they seem like a great deal and the customer reviews are good, but the cards we designed were printed badly TWICE (both times, more than half the cards in the shipment had a border that was off-center). We did finally get a full refund, but reordering two different times was a real hassle.
- Do the best you can with etiquette. Let’s get tacky for a moment: we encountered the delicate situation in which a few guests attended our wedding but did not give us a wedding present. To thank or not to thank? The internet is torn on this. Some think that everyone should be thanked formally because they came and celebrated with you (and that it’s downright miserly to not send it), while others argue it’s rude TO send the note (because “thank you for coming” might be read as “thanks for not getting us anything, jerk”). We’ve been debating for months about this, and have agreed that we will definitely send one to the out-of-town guest who traveled for our wedding, but are still undecided about the couple of locals who fell into this category. What do you think? Send or don’t send a thank you note to a guest that came but didn’t gift?
And there you have it. Our wedding extravaganza had come to a close…and now it was time to relax with a Mai Tai. Hawaiian honeymooning—next time on Sixpence recaps!
*My initial hope was that it be hung somewhere in our reception as a cute touch, but I’m pretty sure it got flung onto a random side table and no one noticed it. Oh well.