The Best Dudes

So I’ve talked a bit about the leading ladies in my life and what they’ll be wearing on the big day, but I haven’t mentioned a word about the dudes! And they are some very important dudes who definitely deserve to be introduced!

But first, a word on learning to be not-so-traditional. I come from a family that does things the traditional way and this means an even number of ladies on the bride’s side and an even number of men on the groom’s side. Because I had six ladies that I really wanted to stand by me on my wedding day I automatically assumed that we would find six groomsmen for Mr. Coyote. I knew that he didn’t have a large circle of dude friends (in fact, most of his friends are ladies!), but I have a large family with an endless supply of cousins who would be more than happy to stand with us on our wedding day.

When I brought this up to Mr. Coyote he didn’t quite agree. While he gets along great with my family he just felt strange stacking his side of the wedding party with my family members. And since he comes from a smaller family there really isn’t anyone on his side who he would like to ask. We had come to a bit of a stalemate on this issue so I told him to sit down and think about who he would really want to be in his wedding party and this is who he came back to me with:

Best Man M:


Best Man M and Mr. Coyote have been friends for as long as they can remember.

They went to elementary school, high school and even college together. I have to say, Best Man M might be one of my favorite people in the world. He is incredibly outgoing and is known for his ridiculous stories and impersonations. Oh and because I love embarrassing people (and his girlfriend reads my blog and will be certain to share this with him) here he is impersonating Miss Cleo:


If you’ll remember, I am asking Mr. Coyote’s sister to be a bridesmaid so asking my brother be a groomsman was a no brainer. In fact, I’m pretty sure Mr. Coyote likes my brother more than he likes me. A few years ago my brother crashed at our apartment for the summer and I swear I somehow felt like the third wheel while he was here:



Yep. These two are definitely soul mates.

Groomsman J:


For the record, I have no idea what is up with Mr. Coyote’s expression in this photo. I can’t tell if he is scared or disgusted with J right now.

Groomsman J was actually my friend long before he was Mr. Coyote’s. He was one of my first friends at college and has been through more shit with me than most other people. I have to say, I am a better person for having him in my life.


We have an incredibly awesome friendship and throughout our years together Mr. Coyote has become very close to him as well. I have say I am incredibly happy that Mr. Coyote and Groomsman J hit it off so well and it’s very fitting that he will be standing with us on our wedding day.

If you’ve been counting along that brings us to six ladies and three dudes. I didn’t want to leave any of my close friends/family out for the sake of even sides just as Mr. Coyote didn’t want to stack his side with people he’s not particularly close. And while I have never personally attended a wedding with uneven sides I’ve looked at many wedding photos (here on the ‘bee and elsewhere) and most of the time I didn’t even notice unless I was really looking.

So that’s that! Although it took me some time to get used to the idea of uneven sides I’m pretty sure it’s going to work out perfectly. At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter how many bridesmaids or groomsmen there are, what really matters is that the most important people in our lives will be standing next to us on our wedding day.

Are you having an uneven bridal party? How did it work out for you?


Mrs. Coyote

Westchester, NY
Wedding Date:
June 2012
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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:50 am

    If you have 6 ladies and 3 gents, it makes pairing them up easy. Two maids to each groomsman!

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    Future Army Wife 2213 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:51 am

    At least pairing them up will be easy! Two maids to each groomsman.

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    Crindy 319 posts, Helper bee @ 10:13 am

    Yep, we have 6 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. As long as we have our most important people up there with us, I couldn’t care less if the sides are even!

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    Miss_Manda 301 posts, Helper bee @ 10:20 am

    We’ll probably have uneven sides, as like you I have lots of ladies while my honey has a few close pals. But we’ll see… so far my confirmed ladies number just 3, and he knows he wants his two brothers, so we may end up closer than I originally thought.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 10:49 am

    I’ve never been in a wedding with uneven sides, so I know how you feel about thinking it’s not traditional. I always think it looks cute in photos, and I’m sure your wedding will be no different!

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    charlii.rouge 225 posts, Helper bee @ 11:23 am

    I am currently looking at an uneven sided wedding. I also am against the idea of roping in randoms to fill up the spaces. I have my son and nephew most likely to walk without a matching bridesmaid. I thought it could be a nice touch to have them walk my mum to her seat. I do have until August 2013 to figure it out though.

    My brother’s wedding has TEN bridesmaids, yes TEN! I am unsure that there is enough groomsmen… Going to be weird wandering down the aisle on my lonesome, lol.

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    Stephanie, Guest @ 2:06 pm

    We had an uneven number as well and while my parents thought it was odd, we stuck to our guns and in the end, it looked really cute to have our groomsmen walk down the aisle with a girl on each arm. The guys liked it too! 🙂

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    Pink Penguin 144 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:08 pm

    Here in England it is rare to have even sides! There is the best man and quite often that’s it! Other important men tend to be ushers. In our case my 2 sisters and my FH’s sister are bridesmaids, FI’s cousin is best man and we’ll be asking our sisters’ boyfriends to be ushers. x

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