Wedding host advice from brides
With many of you recently getting engaged over the holidays (congrats!), I wanted to put together some observations, based on my experience of hosting a wedding as well as being a guest at many weddings, on how to be a good wedding host.
Don’t be late to your own wedding.
I’m late, I’m late, for a very important date! / Photo via Destiny in Bloom
Making your guests wait a long time for the ceremony to start is a MAJOR don’t as a wedding host (obviously, unless the delay is caused by an act of God and not just because you snoozed through your alarm or decided to sneak in a episode of Orange Is the New Black the morning of your wedding). If you or anyone in your bridal party is notorious for being super late, schedule any morning activities an hour earlier and tell bridal party members that they need to be ready 30 minutes or an hour before they actually need to be.
Aim to create a wedding day schedule that’s seamless so guests understand where and when they need to be somewhere.
On that same note, as a wedding host, try to avoid super long gaps if your wedding will be an all-day thing. If the “Catholic Gap” is a must, either schedule your cocktail hour during that time or, at the very least, give guests recommendations on where they can go to kill time until the reception (a local bar, restaurant, casino, etc.).
If something doesn’t go right, don’t throw a tantrum—especially not in front of your guests.
Don’t make this face at your wedding. / Photo via Wedding Party App
Remember to breathe and either ask someone you trust to handle the situation, or just let it go. Nothing makes guests more uncomfortable than seeing the bride flip out. Luckily I’ve yet to see this in person, but I’ve seen enough episodes of Bridezillas and Four Weddings to assume that this is an awkward situation.
Make sure to thank your guests for attending your wedding (especially if it’s a destination wedding!).
You don’t necessarily need a receiving line, but either a speech at the rehearsal dinner or toast at the wedding thanking everyone for celebrating your big day should suffice and make guests feel that you appreciate their presence.
Always send a thank you card within two months of receiving a gift—even if you are receiving gifts before the wedding or well after the wedding.
Mind your manners! / Photo via The Sole Mates
I know this can get very overwhelming, but never ever skip out on thanking people for gifts. Not only is it poor form to not send a thank you note in a timely manner, but guests also want to make sure you actually received the gift they sent.
Be gracious and say thank you to everyone who helped make your big day possible—from your wedding planner to the coat-check boy.
A lot of time, effort, and coordination will go into making your big day possible, so if you happen to see your vendors throughout the day, make sure to give them a quick thanks. They’ll appreciate it!
But the most important tip of all?
Be happy and enjoy your big day!!
Smile! You just got married. 🙂 / Photo via Munaluchi Bridal
It’s hard to believe (or describe) how fast the day goes by, so make sure to enjoy Every.Single.Moment.
What are your top tips on how to be a good wedding host?