Wedding Burn Out

Hive, I’ve been struggling the past few weeks with this wedding planning stuff. As we inch closer and closer to the wedding day (we’re 45 days out now), I’m starting to feel suffocated by all of the wedding-related things we still have to do. I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m like the world’s worst procrastinator. That being said, a word to the wise: procrastinating might work well enough in college, but it doesn’t work too well with wedding planning. Fellow procrastinators, please heed my warning.

How bad have I procrastinated, you ask? Well, I just booked our cake baker YESTERDAY. I still haven’t booked a florist. We haven’t ordered table linens or dinnerware yet. We’ve yet to make rehearsal or rehearsal dinner plans. And the unfinished ruby slipper sitting on the bookshelf in my living room is about as fun as having a sty in my eye. We’re supposed to meet with our officiant sometime in February to plan out the ceremony details, but we haven’t even finalized the day we’re meeting yet. I have something like fifteen DIY projects still on my wedding to-do list. And to top it all off, I start a new (full-time!) job on Tuesday, which is the day after my mom gets home from the hospital after having surgery to get a pesky kidney stone removed.

And while we’re at it, Mr. A and I are in the process of setting up house in an apartment, and we’ve been busy buying furniture and planning out all of the lovely things that come with that, like setting up utilities and finding an internet provider, etc. I wish so badly that I’d taken care of more of this wedding planning stuff when I didn’t have so many other things on my plate, especially since we’ve been engaged for almost 18 months. I keep mentally kicking myself for all of those wasted days this past summer when I had an ample amount of free time to do all of the little DIY projects I’ve been planning. Now that we’re down to the wire, I’m seriously feeling like I need to cut out a bunch of the little details I’d planned on doing just for the sake of keeping my sanity.

As the wedding keeps getting closer and closer, people keep asking me if I’m nervous or excited or how I’m feeling. Well”¦I’m not nervous. And yes, I’m excited. But mostly, I’m just ready to get everything over and done with. There are some days when I have the serious urge just to take Mr. A by the hand and go elope somewhere, even though I know that’s totally unreasonable and I’d completely regret it afterwards. And as the RSVP cards keep rolling in, I’m reminded by all the people who love us and who are looking forward to celebrating this amazing milestone with us, and that makes me really, really happy.

I guess what this all boils down to is that I’m in a wedding planning funk, and I’m praying to God that I can get out of it in the next couple of days and make one last marathon stretch to the end and get all of this stuff done. Quite simply put, I’ve been eating, drinking and sleeping wedding planning for over a year now, and I’m ready for the wedding to be done and over with and for the marriage to begin. I love Mr. A with all of my heart, and each day that passes that I can’t call him my husband makes me increasingly more crazy. I’m ready to move in together, combine our finances, and be husband and wife. And as much as I know our wedding day will be an amazing celebration, what I’m really looking forward to is what comes afterwards.

So, hive, please tell me I’m not the only one who’s felt this way about wedding planning. Anyone else just kind of tired of it all and ready to get married already? If you’re already married, what was your experience like with the last month and a half before the big day? Any advice?


Mrs. Armadillo

Houston, Texas
Wedding Date:
March 2013
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    lolly-k, Guest @ 3:40 am

    Wow – I feel so reassured that im not alone. im 2 days out from our wedding– ahhh! yesterday and today are the first days that i have really felt the excitement of it all. We dropped off all our stuff at the venue yesterday and i feel like a weight has lifted as i cant fiddle with any of my projects any more.

    Throughout the wedding process i couldnt even name the emotion that i felt. Dont get me wrong i was super excited about getting married and loved getting to do all things DIY ( i LOVE craft!) but i felt very overwhelmed. Like it was just a never ending list of things to do (some things self imposed and unecessary details – but i fell in love with so many DIY details that i just couldnt abandon). My FI was really helpful if i asked him to do something but he wasnt the one with the constant to-do list in his head and thinking who and what we needed to book next and then do the leg work to come up with a lit of potential vendors. my brain was full and tired and i needed someone to take over the mental planning not just the physical stuff
    I felt like i was planning someone elses wedding not mine!
    I also wish that i had involved family and my bridal party more – at the time it was just easier to do it myself than to try and organise 4 people to get together on a weekend when everyone had their own lives going on. as a result i took on more than i needed to.

    my advice – i will end! and like you said so many fabulous things happen after the wedding that it is not the end. i agree with the others – bag projects that are stressing you – you are the only one who will know they are missing, and get help where you can – people really like being involved!

    all the best and tons of hugs xx

  2. msmongoose Bee
    msmongoose 264 posts, Helper bee @ 11:00 am

    Congrats on the new job Miss A! I can’t imagine the stress you must be feeling right now–I’m less than 4 months out and am already starting to stress over some things. Mrs. W is right–focus on the ceremony for the time being, finish booking your vendors, then do the DIY stuff. Oh and you have to finish the ruby shoes as your first DIY project–those shoes are just too fabulous to risk not finishing them on time!

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    razzelbride 90 posts, Worker bee @ 9:15 pm

    Wow, I am so glad u wrote this post, I am 28 days out and I am so overwhelmed and exhausted from the whole thing… What was fun the last 6 months is just work now and I just want to get it over with. I hope this passes but I’m jot hopeful…. It’s just so much work and I don’t really feel like my fi gets it. Ive done a ton of DIYs already and i only have a couple left, so that is good, and I love doing the crafts so that is fun! but now most of what is left are the endless details and loose ends, and I’m tired!!! Ahhhhh… I feel like a crazy person!

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    razzelbride 90 posts, Worker bee @ 1:27 pm

    miss armadillo – how r u feeling now?
    i’m 17 days out and THANK GOD my wedding crazy stress has finally retreated and i am over the moon excited again!! i hope your burnout has/will pass!

  5. msarmadillo Bee
    msarmadillo 497 posts, Helper bee @ 2:28 pm

    @razzelbride: I’m doing much better! You’re so sweet for asking! My wedding stress was short-lived after I started thinking about how it’ll all be over soon. 😉 30 days out for us, now! So glad your burnout is over and you’re back into the wedding mode again!

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