I always love these posts from other bees, so I figured I’d give you a glimpse into our guest list and RSVP breakdown.
For the ceremony, our venue holds 100 at the absolute maximum. We knew we would get some declines, but we didn’t want to risk too much. Save some of my side of the family, we didn’t invite any “peripherals”—you know, the second cousins you never see, or old college classmates—and there’s not much else going on in February, so we were fairly confident that most people would be able to make it. We ended up inviting 108:
Whoops. I didn’t realize how skewed this was until I looked at it in a nice chart fashion.
As you can see, our wedding is definitely “friend-heavy.” I have a big immediate family, but we’re not especially close with my extended family, whereas Wolfman’s family is a little on the smaller side. We also both brought a good sized friend group to the relationship, and we’ve kept up those friendships during our dating.
The full breakdown:
To give myself some leeway here, I extended invites to aunts and uncles I haven’t seen in years that we were fairly confident wouldn’t make it. Turns out that hunch was right, and our actual RSVP list is much more balanced with 89:
A bit more balanced!
Still super friend heavy. Final breakdown:
We were aiming/hoping for about 85 and landed a bit above that, but still fine for our venue’s capacity. For the longest time I also forgot to add us to the total—don’t forget that you’re going to your own wedding!
How are your numbers shaping up? Any surprises or did you get the RSVPs you thought you would?