Hair Problems

So I was (I thought) 100% convinced of how I wanted to wear my hair for the wedding. You see, I’m all about looking like myself on my wedding day. I wanted to buy a dress that was “me,” that was comfortable, and that I could see myself wearing on any other day (if it wasn’t white and a wedding dress…). So when it came to hair, I wanted to follow the same principles. And I basically have one “favorite” way of wearing my hair, the same way I wore it in our engagement shoot.


Photo by Niki Marie Photography

Yeah, I’m kinda boring, but basically curly and pinned half back. I have a lot of heavy hair, so having it hang in my face drives me crazy! My hair now is even longer than in this picture.

So easy enough, right? I looked up pictures and found tons of inspiration for long curly hair—ways to make me look dressy yet still myself.


Image via / Photo by Lane Dittoe


Image via / Photo by Tinywater Photography

I bought my dress (online, without trying it on, remember?). It came, it fit perfectly, and I loved it! I had the dress and hairstyle I wanted—all good.


Image via J.Crew


The first time I tried on the dress my hair was up. It was the end of the day, I was tired, I pulled it on top of my head. I decided a few days later to style my hair and try on the dress to see what I would look like.

And I hated my hair down with it. Because my dress isn’t strapless, my long hair covered the straps and just made it look…weird. Even though I wanted to channel Mrs. Castle or Mrs. Hawk, I’m not sure it’s meant to be.

It’s been about a month since then and I’m still not sure what to do. I need to try on my dress again and play around with my hair a little bit more. I’m not sure if having someone else do my hair would make any difference. Complicating the issue is that Mr. Lemur prefers when I wear my hair down—as I think a lot of guys do. The wedding is indoors, so heat shouldn’t be a huge issue, but it’s South Carolina…and guys, it is always humid here.

What should I do? Any hairstyle suggestions? Down or up? Should I try to do my own hair or should I look into having someone do it for me? (It would have to be out of my own pocket, as there’s not room in the wedding budget.)


Mrs. Lemur

Greenville, South Carolina
Wedding Date:
May 2013
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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 6:08 pm

    You have such pretty hair, however you decide to wear it will look gorgeous!

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    xjamit 42 posts, Newbee @ 9:21 am

    I know you are a laid-back kinda girl but I bet it would look gorgeous up, a little something special!!

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