Behind Schedule

The other day, I woke up to this in my inbox:

A monthly reminder email from The Knot

A monthly reminder email from The Knot

I’ve been getting these emails once a month since September, and I’ve been feeling pretty good about them so far. I was confidently crossing things off The Knot’s checklist ahead of time, updating my Google spreadsheets, and acting like planning a wedding was the easiest thing in the universe.

But then the holidays happened and Moo and I moved into a new place. All of a sudden, without me even realizing it, we were at under six months until our wedding. My checklist isn’t looking so great right now, since I’m several months behind where The Knot thinks I should be.

Yeah, those exclamation marks aren't a good thing.

The exclamation marks are there to highlight just how far behind I am.

Florist. Baker. Bridesmaids’ dresses. Invitations.

Am I supposed to have started thinking about those by now?

The thing is, I started out strong. I was so excited to plan our wedding day! I didn’t understand how anyone ever got tired of their wedding stuff and forgot to find a florist or tell their bridesmaids all the relevant details or finish their gift registry.

I was very prepared with my shared Google Drive folders. I had that long list of venues and my notes on each place I found. I created PowerPoints with different decor ideas and links to places where I could buy or rent the things I was looking at. Our ceremony folder had information on officiants, interfaith weddings, possible readings, and more. Looking back, I may have been overly focused on our wedding, since I was having trouble making space in my brain for anything but our details and logistics. But it must have been working, since most of our big stuff was taken care of by the beginning of October.

I wish those florist and cake documents had something in them..

I wish those florist and cake documents had something in them.

Then one day I woke up, and everything felt a little chaotic and a lot more relaxed. I’m not sure when everything changed, but at some point I had stopped using Google Drive to keep track of everything (including the budget, oops), and I was not at all interested in getting back into that super organized mode.

So, my new goal is to get back on track by mid-February. Instead of trying to use my old organization strategies, I’m just doing some frantic Google searches and saving everything in my inbox. This is working just as well as my overly organized methods, leading me to believe that no strategy is better or worse than another—it is all about finding what is right for you and anyone else who is planning with you. And yes, the strategy might have to change halfway through the process, so just roll with it!

My mindset right now is that as long as we find what we need by July, everything will be fine. We already have our wedding bands, officiants, and marriage prep scheduled”¦I can’t be that far behind schedule, right?


Mrs. Milk Cow

August 10
Columbia, MD
Wedding Date:
July 2014
Trying on Big White Dresses
Gallery of the Day: January 31, 2014
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    melizabe 108 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:03 am

    You don’t look too far “behind” to me. Don’t let the tyranny of The Knot’s exclamation points get to you. I had so many of those, and still have a few left. Also, I am glad to know that I am not the only one who hasn’t registered yet!

  2. mspalmtree Bee
    Mrs. Palm Tree 1122 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:29 am

    One of the things I noticed when I was planning is that so many of the items on The Knot’s lists did not even remotely apply to me. I seriously spent about an hour one day just ‘x’ing out the items that had no relevance to our wedding and I felt so much better – even a little “so there!”-y. 😉

  3. wellies Bee
    wellies 1425 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:16 am

    My mindset right now is that as long as we find what we need by July, everything will be fine.

    Sounds like a good strategy to me! 😉

    @Mrs. Palm Tree: +1! I wish you could bulk “x” out items on the list, ha ha!

  4. milkcow Bee
    Mrs. Milk Cow 216 posts, Helper bee @ 1:15 pm

    @melizabe: Thank you! We started registering, but didn’t finish – worst idea ever. If one more person calls me complaining that I don’t have enough things on my registry… I’m so grateful that they want to buy me gifts, but I wish I could turn the registries off until they were ready!!

    @Mrs. Palm Tree: I’ve had that problem too.. maybe that’s why I enjoyed checking so much off in the beginning? LOL I like your attitude!

    @Miss Wellies: I wish I was calm enough to maintain it!

  5. pyramid Bee
    Mrs. Pyramid 104 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:51 pm

    Doesn’t that suck – picking venues and photogs seems like the biggest hurdle in the world, but give it a few months and its like that isn’t even a bug thing to have scratched off the list, you know?
    You’ll get back in he groove (I did a similar thing too!) and you’ll be able to go with your gut and just choose something!

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    mrscam24 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:12 pm

    I feel the same…. my wedding is in July and still no cake and florist for me. I’m still so undecided what I need/want to do. Guess I’m right there with you with lots of “!”s waiting there for me 😉

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    mrswhitemtn 365 posts, Helper bee @ 1:46 pm

    Don’t worry too much, enjoy it! If you have a couple florists in mind it helps to talk to them about what you’re interested in but depending on your florist you may not need a super formal contract.

    We got our flowers from an awesome local market (they did all the arrangements, setup, etc) and they only needed a small deposit. We ended up picking the flowers we were using only about 2 weeks before our wedding and they came out fabulous. You really just need to make sure they have someone who can do the delivery and setup on your date and that they have enough time to order any “special” flowers you might need.

    Don’t get too stressed about the checklists, they are only a guideline!

  8. milkcow Bee
    Mrs. Milk Cow 216 posts, Helper bee @ 9:45 am

    @mrswhitemtn: Thanks! I took a break from some of the stressful stuff and focused on the fun (like ordering my veil and jewelry!) and that is helping me get back into it 🙂
    The florist information is super helpful – I feel much better about it hearing that I have some time. And how awesome that you could use a local market!

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