The other day, I woke up to this in my inbox:
A monthly reminder email from The Knot
I’ve been getting these emails once a month since September, and I’ve been feeling pretty good about them so far. I was confidently crossing things off The Knot’s checklist ahead of time, updating my Google spreadsheets, and acting like planning a wedding was the easiest thing in the universe.
But then the holidays happened and Moo and I moved into a new place. All of a sudden, without me even realizing it, we were at under six months until our wedding. My checklist isn’t looking so great right now, since I’m several months behind where The Knot thinks I should be.
The exclamation marks are there to highlight just how far behind I am.
Florist. Baker. Bridesmaids’ dresses. Invitations.
Am I supposed to have started thinking about those by now?
The thing is, I started out strong. I was so excited to plan our wedding day! I didn’t understand how anyone ever got tired of their wedding stuff and forgot to find a florist or tell their bridesmaids all the relevant details or finish their gift registry.
I was very prepared with my shared Google Drive folders. I had that long list of venues and my notes on each place I found. I created PowerPoints with different decor ideas and links to places where I could buy or rent the things I was looking at. Our ceremony folder had information on officiants, interfaith weddings, possible readings, and more. Looking back, I may have been overly focused on our wedding, since I was having trouble making space in my brain for anything but our details and logistics. But it must have been working, since most of our big stuff was taken care of by the beginning of October.
I wish those florist and cake documents had something in them.
Then one day I woke up, and everything felt a little chaotic and a lot more relaxed. I’m not sure when everything changed, but at some point I had stopped using Google Drive to keep track of everything (including the budget, oops), and I was not at all interested in getting back into that super organized mode.
So, my new goal is to get back on track by mid-February. Instead of trying to use my old organization strategies, I’m just doing some frantic Google searches and saving everything in my inbox. This is working just as well as my overly organized methods, leading me to believe that no strategy is better or worse than another—it is all about finding what is right for you and anyone else who is planning with you. And yes, the strategy might have to change halfway through the process, so just roll with it!
My mindset right now is that as long as we find what we need by July, everything will be fine. We already have our wedding bands, officiants, and marriage prep scheduled”¦I can’t be that far behind schedule, right?